Doctrine of Flattery
Flattery is one of several types of sin, under the second of the three main categories of Personal Sin, called the “Sins of the Tongue” or “Verbal Sins” (Mental and Overt sins are the first and third categories respectfully.).
Verbal sins include; gossip, maligning, slander, judging, lying, flattery, and any form of verbal deception.
Psa 12:2, “They speak falsehood to one another; with flattering lips and with a double heart they speak.”
To “flatter” means, “to compliment excessively and often insincerely, especially in order to win the favor of someone or to court someone. It is trying to please or gratify someone and feed their vanity. It is also trying to persuade someone that something they want to believe is the case. “So, it means, “to be smooth with your speech, or to form and create deceit with the mouth through compliments.”
“Flattering” is to serve to arouse favorable or gratifying attention towards yourself, represented in an exaggeratedly favorable or attractive manner.
“Flattery” is the act or practice of excessive, false, or sycophantic praise, (the praise of rich or powerful people in order to gain an advantage), or flattering.
The flatterer typically flatters the one who is listening to their maligning and slander of another. They flatter you to keep you on their side of the situation or argument. The tongue is used to flatter those they are trying to persuade with regard to their slander of someone else.
Flattery is Related to the Arrogance Complex of Sins:
Jude 1:16, “These are grumblers, finding fault, following after their own lusts; they speak arrogantly, flattering people for the sake of gaining an advantage.”
Arrogance is a mental attitude sin which overflows into the motivation, decision making, and activity of the individual, including Verbal and Overt Sins. Arrogance includes at least four different concepts.
Egotism; an excessive preoccupation with self.
Vanity; self-admiration and an excessive desire to be admired by others.
Pride; lofty and arrogant assumption of superiority.
Conceit; exaggerated estimation of one’s abilities and attainments.
Those who function in the Arrogance Complex of Sins are easily flattered and persuaded by others because of their massive egos, vanity, pride, and conceit. They love to hear people puff them up. Therefore, arrogance is easily deceived and vulnerable to flattery.
When a person is arrogant or vain, they are susceptible to flattery. A woman’s problem is basically in her emotion, where the man’s problem is basically in his mental attitude and pride. He thinks he is something, when he is nothing. So, he is susceptible to vanity. And so, vanity is easily flattered and easily patronized. You can flatter a person who is vain. You can say to a vain man, “You know, you are one of the most intelligent individuals I have ever met.” And, they won’t say, “I am?” They will say, “Oh, I figured that.” Because, they are stupid. Because, they are vain. And, when you say, “You are one of the most handsome men I have ever met.” There are some men that are so stupid that believe that. And, ladies use that 100’s of times, because they know the man loves it. That is why Bathsheba, David’s wife, kept telling her son Solomon, “Watch out for the flatterer.” Because a woman, who knows how to flatter, can take a man who is successful in every realm of life and make him her slave.
Likewise, the arrogant practice flattery towards others trying to secure some type of gain for themselves. The arrogant believers’ whole reason for existence is to prove that he is better than anyone in his periphery, and instead of being Occupied with the Person of Christ inside of God’s Power System, (GPS), he is overly concerned about the opinions of his contemporaries. As a result, he is very susceptible to giving over to the flattery of others that boosts his own ego, and he flatters others to win them over to his side or way of thinking. Arrogance lives on flattery and believes the lie in it.
Emotional Arrogance is someone who operates purely on their emotions and does not operate based on the Wisdom from Bible Doctrine in their soul. These believers want you to admire them and speak only favorably to or about them. They only want to hear flattering praise and do not have objectivity in their soul to see their “blind spots” in the spiritual life.
If you say anything negative or unflattering to them, or even if you simply just do not flatter them in a normal greeting or conversation, immediately their arrogance shows through hypersensitivity, Rom 16:17‑18.
Rom 16:17-18, “Now I urge you, brethren, keep your eye on those who cause dissensions and hindrances contrary to the teaching which you learned, and turn away from them. 18For such men are slaves, not of our Lord Christ but of their own appetites (emotions); and by their smooth and flattering speech they deceive the hearts of the unsuspecting.”
Emotional Arrogance is vulnerable to flattery, because flattery encourages unreality about self:
- It encourages fear, because emotion cannot think under pressure. Courage is thinking under pressure.
- It also produces personality disturbances, called psycho‑neurotic disorders. Psycho‑neurotic personalities use arrogance to try to deal with stress, but instead of solving stress, they manufacture anxiety, piling more pressure on their life, because “emotional arrogance” cannot handle anxiety.
- Phobic, depressive, obsessive, and compulsive reactions result from “emotional arrogance,” and all of these syndromes are vulnerable to flattering and flattery.
The Arrogance Skills of Denial and Self-Deception:
Denial is not just a river in Egypt, (lol), but the refusal or rejection of the truth. It is disowning, disavowing, or repudiating what is true about yourself.
Self-deception is the act of deceiving oneself or the state of being deceived by oneself.
In the case of the arrogant believer, it is refusal to know and understand where you are wrong in the application of Bible doctrine to your life, that is, how you are operating in the spiritual life. They do not look at themselves or others objectively but rather subjectively.
James 1:23-24, “For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks at his natural face in a mirror; 24for once he has looked at himself and gone away, he has immediately forgotten what kind of person he was.”
This negative believer merely glances at himself in the mirror of the Word of God and rejects what he sees because it is very unflattering.
When you turn away from the mirror of the Word of God and lie to yourself, you forget all about it. You think you are still operating in righteousness, when in fact you are evil.
Therefore, they have self-deception which makes being deceived by others through flattery very easy. These self-absorbed people, whether male or female, are highly vulnerable to the praise, flattery, and deception of others, and typically use flattery themselves to deceive others and win them over.
They have lost the true sense of reality which is found in God’s Word and are given over to the flattering, flittering, and fawning of others.
Psa 5:9, “There is nothing reliable in what they say; their inward part is destruction itself. Their throat is an open grave; they flatter with their tongue.”
An Inferiority Complex is, when you are so preoccupied with yourself, you focus upon all of your flaws and believe you are no good or a lesser human being than others. One of the most tragic functions of the “lust of the flesh,” 1 John 2:16, is the inferiority complex.
Because they think so lowly of themselves, people with an inferiority complex go through life either trying to rationalize or justify their decisions and behaviors, or they are constantly trying to prove that in fact they have some sort of superiority over others, (i.e., the Napoleon Syndrome).
An inferiority complex completely destroys their life. It keeps them off balance and the Old Sin Nature becomes very active in their lives. These people are highly susceptible to the flattery of others and in fact are always looking for that flattery and/or the flatterer.
Rationalization and self-justification plus living in the unrealistic world of flattery satisfy their approbation lust, and they think that everything is ok, when in actuality it is not. Having an inferiority complex is one of the most tragic yet prominent problems in life. When the believer attains Spiritual Self-Esteem, this problem is resolved.
The Mutual Admiration Society, (The Co-Dependent Clique Syndrome):
Psa 12:2, “They (the clique) speak falsehood to one another; with flattering lips and with a double heart they speak. 3May the LORD cut off all flattering lips, the tongue that speaks great things; 4Who have said, “With our tongue we will prevail; our lips are our own; who is lord over us?”
The co-dependency clique syndrome is defined as a narrow, exclusive group in which clique leadership and the clique group is bound by mutual admiration and emotional dependency of one another.
In the dominate-adaptive clique, the bond is emotional dependence on leadership. The dominate clique leader or controller provides profuse flattery and attention which controls the dependents, so that they will think and do whatever the controller desires.
The fear of not having their power lust satisfied will cause the clique leader to control with extravagant flattery and attention. The fear of not having approbation lust satisfied will cause the dependent ones to do and think whatever the controller desires.
The clique leader always has a deep-seated power lust. He/she is often not even aware of this power lust and accompanying arrogance. Once power lust is stimulated, blind arrogance comes into the picture. With that blind arrogance, there comes the fear of losing or not having power.
The fear of not having power results in controlling and manipulating the dependent ones with profuse flattery, the giving of gifts, entertainment, luncheons, dinners, parties, special attention, and above all constant counseling (you are encouraged to call). The emotional pattern of the controller is eased through manipulation and control using flattery as a main tool. Therefore, power lust is stimulated and satisfied.
The emotional pattern of the dependent ones is eased through extravagant and generous flattery, reinforced with all kinds of attention, including “counseling sessions.” Approbation lust, therefore, is satisfied and stimulated.
In the co-dependency clique, it is more of a mutual emotional dependence society, yet there always seems to be a leader of the pack. The co-dependent clique has a relationship based on emotional needs of both the clique leadership and the dependent believers. In either case, these groups gather together in order to puff each other up by means of excessive flattery with the secondary goal of tearing others down.
Prov 26:28, “A lying tongue hates those it crushes, and a flattering mouth works ruin.”
They are very arrogant in their ways and thinking. They think they are better than “all those other little people.”
This group is found in Psa 12:2-4.
Psa 12:2-4, “They (the clique) speak falsehood to one another; with flattering lips and with a double heart they speak. 3May the LORD cut off all flattering lips, the tongue that speaks great things; 4Who have said, “With our tongue we will prevail; our lips are our own; who is lord over us?”
These types not only use flattery on each other, but they use a number of other sins of the tongue to undermine those outside the group such as slander, gossip, maligning, judging, and false propaganda.
The clique will even at times use flattery on those that they have just gossiped about in order to cover their tracks and maintain their righteous reputation. Likewise, they will flatter “others” with flowering praise in order to manipulate them and achieve some personal gain.
This group also has Authority Orientation problems. Authority arrogance is seen in the last rhetorical question: “Who is our lord / master (אָדוֹן – ADON) over us?” They are an authority only to themselves and look down on all others.
Inordinate competition is found in social, sexual, and spiritual spheres of life. It is a sign of arrogance, pride, jealousy, and insecurity. The inordinate competitor is insecure socially, sexually, and spiritually. It comes in many forms and performs many adverse functions in life. Inordinate Competition also comes with the facade of sweetness, flattery, and even pseudo spirituality, but behind it is an arrogant, jealous, insecure hypocritical person, waiting to strike like a viper.
Sexual Arrogance, (the topic of Proverbs 5), is manifested through the seduction of others by luring them into sexual immorality through flattery, i.e., “lips dripping with honey and speech smoother than oil.” It is achieved by a flirtatious attitude coupled with heaps of flattery designed to receive flattery back in return. It is designed to stimulate the arrogance complex of sins, leading to sexual immorality and conquest. Many times, it is directed towards important people (sycophantic); those with power, money, fame, prestige, etc. Cleopatra seduced Caesar, Messalina seduced Claudius, Athens seduced Pericles, etc. Sexual arrogance relates to the number and importance of the conquests.
2 Tim 3:6-7, “For among them, (arrogant men), are those who enter into households and captivate weak women weighed down with sins, led on by various impulses, 7always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.”
“Weak or silly” women are vulnerable to flattery and are seducible. Arrogant men take advantage of a woman who is reacting to someone she loves. When a woman is reacting to someone she loves, she becomes vulnerable to responding to other men. Arrogant men are flawed and are looking to take advantage of a reacting woman. The woman with reflected beauty rather than projected beauty is the silly woman here.
1 Tim 5:6, “But she who gives herself to wanton pleasure is dead even while she lives.”
The word “wanton” means, “headstrong and willful, sexually lawless and unrestrained.” She becomes socially competitive, unrestrained, provocative in flirtation, vulnerable to flattery, with a lack of sexual restraint.
The worst thing that can happen to any man is to fall in love with a woman who lives in wanton pleasure. In marriage, the woman has stopped responding to the man she loves and is now reacting to him. When her reaction becomes wanton, then the soul is controlled by the sin nature and the body has its own lust pattern. Her relationships with men become sexual, and everything in her life centers on collecting men and approbation.
A dead soul is a woman in reaction, who responds to other men in flirtation, approbation, and sex. Everything is physical; therefore, she also often becomes involved in alcohol and drugs.
Not having integrity in the soul from Bible Doctrine stored in her right lobe, the reacting woman can go on a shopping spree to see if there are any better males to whom see can respond. She is dead in her soul while she lives. She is vulnerable to jealousy, bitterness, flattery. She can be manipulated. She may have a frantic search for happiness, emotional revolt of the soul, blackout of the soul, and a complete loss of values which add to the deadness of her thinking process in her stream of consciousness. She is described by “reckless, arrogant, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,” 2 Tim 3:4.
Eccl 7:26, “I have discovered more bitter than death the woman whose heart is snares and nets, whose hands are chains. However, the person who is pleasing to God will escape from her. But the sinner (arrogant male) will be captured by her.”
This woman can often do a lot of thinking, but it is not objective, doctrinal, professional, or academic thinking; it is thinking used to bring attention to herself in whatever way she wants attention. This is thinking in terms of “snares and nets,” and in her hands, she has chains. She will be very flattering and conniving, and once she catches you by your arrogance, your arrogance will chain you to her.
One thing that will destroy wisdom and ability to look at life from the Divine viewpoint is the dumb arrogant male succumbing to the flattery of a woman, using him for her own advancement or pleasure.
Women who are physically beautiful often have a handicap in life, because they often are so arrogant they have no values of any kind. They are dependent on their beauty and lust for flattery and attention of men. They are self-destructive. The greatest tragedy that can come to these women is to depend on their beauty, to live for flattery, and to have no values beyond their own self-absorption. They are totally repulsive and do not even know it. They always become losers in their spiritual life.
Eph 5:3-4, “But immorality or any impurity or greed must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints; 4and there must be no filthiness (obscenity) and silly talk (foolish talk, buffoonery), or coarse jesting (rude humor based on sex), which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks.”
“Coarse jesting,” εὐτραπελία – EUTRAPELIA, originally meant to have ready wit, to have excellent banter. But eventually the word changed and it came to be used in a bad sense of being tricky, dishonest, a flatterer, or what might be commonly called a teaser, which is exactly the way it is used here. This has to do primarily with the man or woman who is a teaser sexually. It means you should not be a flirt.
The Constant Complainer:
Jude 1:16, “These are grumblers, finding fault, following after their own lusts; they speak arrogantly, flattering people for the sake of gaining an advantage.”
Complainers are people who are always finding fault with others. They walk after their own lusts, and their mouth speaks great swelling words, complimenting people for the sake of personal gain, as noted in Jude 1:16.
Complainers usually complain, because their lust has not yet been fed.
It is interesting to note that the people who tend to flatter the most are those whose lives tend to be the most messed up. They are truly unhappy people who use flattery as a façade to cover up the real sadness in their soul, because deep down they know they are messed up. And instead of turning to God and His Word, they turn to some form of pseudo cosmic system cover up, including flattery.
At one moment, they are complaining about everyone and everything and the next they are flattering those they want to impress.
True Happiness (+H) belongs to those who do not complain, Psa 144:14-15.
Psa 114:14-15, “Let our cattle bear without mishap and without loss, let there be no outcry in our streets! 15How happy are the people who are so situated; how happy are the people whose God is the LORD!”
Cosmic Evangelism and Flattery:
Cosmic Evangelism is the process of someone trying to lead you away from your relationship with God and into a replacement relationship that involves sin, human good, or evil. They are evangelizing you to join Satan’s Cosmic System, and to walk in darkness rather than light. Cosmic Evangelism is conducted by carnal or reversionistic believers and unbelievers alike who are under the control of Satan and his Cosmic System.
Cosmic evangelistic appeal is generally conducted through the arrogance of the evangelist, though the arrogance may be disguised by a facade of flattery, intellectuality, affection, or even passion.
Psa 5:9, “There is nothing reliable in what they say; their inward part is destruction itself. Their throat is an open grave; they flatter with their tongue.”
Arrogance is the motivation of the evangelist and the target of those they are trying to evangelize. Arrogance is used by Satan to play both characters, because it is easily influenced by evil, 1 Cor 15:33, “Evil friends corrupt good morals.”
A flatterer is said to be a beast that bites while smiling; just as a wolf resembles man’s best friend, a dog, so does a flatterer resemble a friend.
Cosmic Evangelism can be an appeal by the moral person to convince others that a code of conduct and approbation is the only way to God and heaven, leading you to enter into human good and evil to propitiate God.
It can be an appeal by the immoral person to convince others that a life of licentiousness, sin and evil is the only way to live and is not that bad.
Compare: Rev 2:20-22.
Sometimes due to close relationships with comic people, whether believers or unbelievers, the mature believer is led astray because of his love for the cosmic person. The resultant arrogance means loss of discernment. Therefore, People Testing is a part of cosmic evangelism by those you either love or hate.
Note what Prov 27:14 tells us, “He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him.”
As noted above, a flatterer is said to be a beast that bites while smiling. As a wolf resembles man’s best friend, a dog, so does a flatterer resemble a friend. Be careful of those so-called friends who flatter you with their speech.
Where love, honor, integrity, and virtue do not exist in the life of the believer, then they are easily evangelized by their cosmic friends or lovers by means of flattery, flirtation, friendliness, or even sexual fervor.
Therefore, the cosmic evangelist is affectionate and/or passionate towards you, trying to lead you astray.
- The moral cosmic evangelist is affectionate without being passionate, and with affection and flattery lures you into the cosmic system.
- The immoral cosmic believer is passionate without being affectionate, and with flirtatious passion lures you into the cosmic system.
2 Cor 6:11-18, “Our mouth has spoken freely to you, O Corinthians, our heart is opened wide. 12You are not restrained by us, but you are restrained in your own affection. 14Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever? 16Or what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God… 17Therefore, “come out from their midst and be separate,” says the Lord. “And do not touch what is unclean; and I will welcome you. 18And I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to Me,” says the Lord Almighty.”
Cosmic evangelism never attracts you through capacity for love, honor, integrity, or virtue. The tool of the cosmic evangelist is always arrogance played on arrogance.
1 Peter 1:1-6, “Therefore, since Christ has suffered in the flesh, arm yourselves also with the same purpose, because he who has suffered in the flesh has ceased from sin, 2so as to live the rest of the time in the flesh no longer for the lusts of men, but for the will of God. 3For the time already past is sufficient for you to have carried out the desire of the Gentiles, having pursued a course of sensuality, lusts, drunkenness, carousing, drinking parties and abominable idolatries. 4In all this, they are surprised that you do not run with them into the same excesses of dissipation, and they malign you; 5but they will give account to Him who is ready to judge the living and the dead. 6For the (true) gospel has for this purpose been preached even to those who are dead, that though they are judged in the flesh as men, they may live in the spirit according to the will of God.”
The Men-Pleaser Syndrome:
Eph 6:5-6, “Slaves (workers), be obedient to those who are your masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in the sincerity of your heart, as to Christ; 6not by way of eye-service, as men-pleasers, but as slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart.”
“Men-pleasers” refers to someone who tries to please people or “butter them up,” at the expense of principle, to either maintain their position or get ahead. It is someone who holds their job by flattery and fawning. You should never become a sycophant, (someone who praises rich or powerful people in order to gain an advantage), in order to get ahead in life. Every believer must do his job as unto the Lord.
Col 3:22, “Slaves, in all things obey those who are your masters on earth, not with external service, as those who merely please men, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord.”
In both Eph 6:6 and Col 3:22, “eye service” or “external service” is the Greek Noun, ὀφθαλμοδουλεία – OPHTHALMODOULIA (of-thal-mod-oo-li’-ah). It is a compound word from OPTHALMOS – ὀφθαλμός that means, “eye,” and DOULEIA – δουλεία that means, “slavery or bondage.” Therefore, OPHTHALMODOULIA does mean literally, “eye slaves” or “eye service” or “service only while being watched,” and comes to mean, “service rendered merely for the sake of impressing others.”
So, it is service only while being watched or what is a hypocritical type working. It means working hard when the boss is watching and then loafing when he is gone. This is a principle of hypocrisy or trying to flatter the boss.
And then it says “as people-pleasers.” Here we have the Adverb HOS – ὡς, “as,” plus the Adjective ἀνθρωπάρεσκος – ANTHROPARESKOS (anth-ro-par’-es-kos), that too is a compound word from the Noun ANTHROPOS – ἄνθρωπος, “man,” and the Verb ARESKO – ἀρέσκω that means, “to please.” Combined it means, “studying to please man, courting the favor of men” or “one who acts merely to please men.” So, it is doing your work with the desire to please men.
This is the hypocrisy of flattery! The world is filled with these types of people.
There is a good chance that, at times in your life, you are going to have an unfair boss, someone who mistreats you, but you are to do your job as unto the Lord regardless of the type of boss you have.
Do not be a hypocrite, do not be a phony or a flatterer, do your job as unto the Lord.
The flatterer loves to praise excessively for self-interests or self-promotion; therefore, he is smooth and is something that the Word of God warns us against.
You will never get ahead as a Christian by patronizing and flattering others for your promotion. Joseph learned this the hard way.
This is the type of person described in Psa 55:21, “His speech was smoother than butter, but his heart was war; his words were softer than oil, yet they were drawn swords.”
In addition, sometimes individuals are placed in positions of leadership because they have made promises to the people that they had no intentions of keeping. On the other side, those who hold any form of leadership position must never be sucked into bad advice or be manipulated by flattery or patronizing from ambitious people.
So, in closing this subject out, beware of:
– The brown-noser
– The yes man (he agrees to anything – then stabs you)
– The sweet talker
– The deceiver
– The complimenter
– The backslapper
– The back-stabber, (He smiles in your face and all the while he wants to take you place!)
The Con-Artist and Flattery:
Acts 20:30, “And from among your own selves men will arise, speaking perverse things, to draw away the disciples after them.”
The “con-artist” is generally a person with a pleasing personality, who makes a pleasing appearance but uses flattery and tricks in order to cause you to give him money or some other thing that satisfies the lust pattern of his Sin Nature.
The “con-artist” has an attractive way about him, and gives the impression of being successful or great at what he does. However, they are con-artists and use flattery to the maximum to gain some advantage over you or to get something from you. These individuals can also be described as personality peddlers, which are sometimes called “Slick Willies!
A con-artist must do something to flatter himself with his victim, whether it is using inferiority or superiority tactics, Psa 55:21. This is when their motives are different than their speech.
Psa 55:21, “His speech was smoother than butter, but his heart was war; His words were softer than oil, yet they were drawn swords.”
A con-artist may also give the impression to his victim that he hates everyone his victim hates, even if he must pretend to hate his true friends. He also appears to love people his victim loves. He is a super hypocrite, Psa 62:4; Luke 20:20.
David noted in Psa 62:4, “They have counseled only to thrust him down from his high position; they delight in falsehood; they bless with their mouth, but inwardly they curse. Selah.”
This is somewhat of a prophecy regarding our Lord in Luke 20, but also something that con-artists portray in every generation.
Luke 20:20, “So they watched Him (Jesus), and sent spies who pretended to be righteous, in order that they might catch Him in some statement, so that they could deliver Him to the rule and the authority of the governor.”
To be a good con-artist, you must cultivate certain mental attitude sins from the arrogance complex of sins, such as implacability, vindictiveness, and cruelty, as well as verbal sins such as flattery and lying, Judges 16:4-21.
Samson had to deal with this with Delilah. She flattered him, and then she could not believe that he would tell her the truth.
Her name Delilah, דְּלִילָה which means, “feeble or dainty one” which describes her overt appearance but not the wickedness of her heart. She betrayed Samson to the lords of the Philistines for 1,100 pieces of silver, Judges 16:5.
Deceiving Samson into believing she loved him, Delilah persuaded him to tell her the secret of his strength which was his long hair, the symbol of his Nazirite vow. And so, while Samson slept at her home in the Valley of Sorek, the Philistines entered and cut his hair. With his strength gone, Samson was easily captured and imprisoned, then blinded.
Delilah deceived Samson by being upset at him for not telling the truth! She tried on three occasions to obtain from him this secret in vain. On the fourth occasion, she squeezed it out of him. She made him sleep upon her knees, and then called the man who was waiting to help her who “cut off the seven locks of his head,” and so his “strength went from him.”
Let us read about the female con-artist in action, Judges 16:4-21.
The deception of Delilah is not what shocks us, it is the stupidity of Samson. Men know what it is like to have the hen pecking of a woman, you know the nag, nag, nag syndrome! But she used her nagging with flattery and deception to satisfy her lust pattern of wealth and riches.
As we noted above, to be a good con-artist, you must cultivate certain mental attitude sins, such as implacability, vindictiveness, and cruelty, as well as verbal sins such as flattery and lying. In addition, con-artists always use those who are unstable as a part of their con. And Delilah did all of that!
Flattery Related to False Teaching and Religion:
Let us look now at another form of “con-artist” which is the false teacher and religion.
In Ezek 12:24, we have a simple prophecy by Ezekiel in which he foretells of the end of false teachers and religion in Jerusalem during his generation. The Lord was about to allow the overthrow of Jerusalem and take the people captive at the hands of Nebuchadnezzar and the Babylonians.
This would put an end to the false religion and false teachers who were continually deceiving the people with their flattering lips saying that everything was fine, they were all good people and only good things would happen to them if they continued to follow their teaching, which we know was false teaching, a system of works and legalism.
Ezek 12:24, “For there will no longer be any false vision or flattering divination within the house of Israel.”
Religion is not only characterized by the doctrine of demons, 1 Tim 4:1-2, but it has both false teachers and false prophets to communicate this information, 2 Cor 11:14-15; 2 Tim 4:2-4. Therefore, false teachers are a part of Satan’s strategy, 1 John 4:1‑3.
False teachers have a phony and hypocritical façade, and are usually the bleeding heart do‑gooders, who “love” everyone, have a big, big, smile on their faces, and are all things to all men apart from any standards based on Bible doctrine, Mat 7:15.
Mat 7:15, “Beware of the false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravenous wolves.”
They seek to stimulate your ego, Rom 16:17-18, “Now I urge you, brethren, keep your eye on those who cause dissensions and hindrances contrary to the teaching which you learned, and turn away from them. 18For such men are slaves, not of our Lord Christ but of their own appetites; and by their smooth and flattering speech they deceive the hearts of the stupid.”
They use human public relations systems and legalistic flirtation to court believers, Gal 4:17; 2 Tim 3:5‑7.
Gal 4:17, “They eagerly seek you, not commendably, but they wish to shut you out, in order that you may seek them.”
This is part of the clique syndrome that many false teachers use to attract their prey. They appeal to human ego, arrogance, and pride to distract believers from grace, 2 Cor 10:12, where they use mutual admiration society ideas.
There are at least six characteristics of false teachers in the Church Age.
- False teachers are masters of hypocrisy. They use a phony facade, first exposed by our Lord in Mat 7:15, and further developed by Paul in Rom 16:17-18.
- Behind a public relations facade, false teachers use legalism to convert their victims to religion, Gal 4:17‑18; 2 Tim 3:5‑7.
- False teachers of religion appeal to human arrogance. They flatter their victims, making them feel wanted, appealing to their pride, 2 Cor 10:12.
- False teachers promote idolatry as a part of the devil’s communion table, Hab 2:18‑19; 1 Cor 10:19‑22.
- False teachers promote self-righteousness, to include legalism, personality arrogance, authority arrogance, crusader arrogance, and works arrogance, 1 Tim 1:6‑7.
- Such believers are described as anti‑Christs and enemies of the Cross, Phil 3:18.
False teachers are clever and can only be detected through the consistent perception, metabolization, and application of Bible doctrine in your own soul. Without metabolized doctrine, you do not have the ability to identify false teaching. Metabolized doctrine is the basis for momentum in both the spiritual life and for discernment between the false and the true.
False teachers continue to operate throughout the Church Age, as this is the intensified period of the Angelic Conflict, 1 John 4:1‑6.
The legalism of self‑righteous arrogance has rejected the grace standards of Bible doctrine, and therefore operates on the double standard of the sins of the tongue, including flattery to manipulate their followers.
True happiness comes from thinking Bible Doctrine, i.e., from perception, metabolization, and application of God’s Word taught from the pulpit of the local church; it is not associated with hypocrisy and flattery, people, places, things, or success.
Flattery and Conspiracy Theory:
Scripture tells us to not follow the crowd, especially into things that are wrong. Why? Because evil loves to get together with evil. When two parties have a mutual area of despising or jealousy against someone or something, many times a conspiracy is soon to follow. So, when they do get together, what happens is they typically will start some kind of a conspiracy against authority.
A “conspiracy” is an agreement between two or more people to perform together an illegal, treacherous, or evil act. It is a combining or acting together, as if by evil design, where an agreement is made to commit a crime or to accomplish a legal purpose through illegal action. Remember Col. Thieme’s old saying, “A right thing must be done in a right way in order to be right. A right thing done in a wrong way is wrong. A wrong thing done in a right way is still wrong. And, a wrong thing done in a wrong way is wrong; two wrongs do not make a right. A right thing must be done in a right way in order to be right.”
Many times, the group that comes together were at enmity previously but because of the circumstance and desire for a like outcome, they band together; strength in numbers as it were. They will even become friends with people they cannot stand for the sake of numbers and for the sake of giving credibility to their satanic lie.
Remember the old saying, “the enemy of my enemy is my friend.”
For example, when it came to crucifying the Lord Jesus Christ (TLJC), we read in Luke 23:12, “Now Herod and Pilate became friends with one another that very day; for before they had been at enmity with each other.”
These types of individuals typically think that there is power in numbers, but truly there is not. There is only power in Bible doctrine.
Korah also did this in Num 16:3, when he said to Moses, “For all the congregation are holy, every one of them, and the Lord is in their midst.” Read: Num 16:1-3.
He was referring specifically to 250 princes, but he is applying it in his subtle way to everyone. This was Korah at his best as a revolutionist or conspiracist. Yet, what was he really doing behind the scenes?
He was deceiving people and using them for personal gain. In fact, he led the 250 princes and others into their revolt with lies and inventions, corruptions, distortions, inaccuracies, misrepresentations, perversions, defamations, and slanders against Moses. By the way, he did this all wrapped up in personal flattery.
He also got as many individuals involved in the conspiracy as he could, so that the conspiracy would have some credibility and believability. In other words, once you get people involved with a conspiracy, (and I am talking about people who many times do not even know that it is a conspiracy), but once you get people involved in a conspiracy, through whatever means possible, like flattering, lying, gossiping, judging, defamation of character, etc., you do four things:
You Give the Conspiracy Some Credibility and Believability. After all, there is a lot of people saying the same thing so it must be true! As another old saying goes, “if you tell a lie long enough, people will believe it is true.”
You Bully People into Supporting Something that is Evil Without Them Even Knowing It. The people started following the majority of the leaders instead of thinking doctrine. However, God the Holy Spirit will reveal to them the truth, through Bible doctrine, if they desire it. But most people ignore the Doctrine and believe the conspiracy instead. In fact, most believers spend more time on the internet today than they do reading their Bible. And they are more prone to believe what someone says on the internet than they do their own Bible or what their Pastor is teaching to them.
Once you get people involved in a conspiracy, through whatever means possible, like flattering, lying, and gossiping, judging, defamation of character, etc., You Put Them in a Position of Supporting the Conspiracy, which is very difficult for them to get out of, unless they make some drastic decisions.
You Cause Them to Get Involved with the Evil Behind the Conspiracy, which can be used in the future to keep them committed to the conspiracy as well. In other words, when the conspiracy begins to crumble, and it will in God’s time, but when it begins to crumble, you remind people that they were also involved, and therefore they need to help you out of the jam that you are now in.
Read: Num 16:4-50.
What Korah did is what Satan does, he promised the 250 princes personal promotion when he gets promoted. Korah was the type of individual who got others to do his dirty work, while trying to appear righteous to those who really did not know him. And remember that Korah was very close to Moses. In fact, they were even cousins. So, the interesting thing, but also the sad thing, is the fact that conspiracies usually start with someone very close to the one in authority.
- Lucifer was the Messiah’s personal angel.
- Joseph’s brothers sold Joseph into slavery.
- Korah, the cousin of Moses, against Moses.
- Absalom was the son of David.
- Judas was close to the Lord Jesus Christ.
And so, in a conspiracy, never be shocked at those involved. This is one of the ways that the conspiracy will have some credibility and believability. In other words, once you get certain people involved with a conspiracy because they were close to the one in authority, many people think that what they are saying is true. But what they actually do is to simply provide a lot of propaganda.
Ex 23:2-3, “You shall not follow a multitude in doing evil, nor shall you testify in a dispute so as to turn aside after a multitude in order to pervert justice. 3Nor shall you be partial or show favoritism to a poor man in his dispute.”
The pattern for conspiracy arrogance is the subject of Psalm 12. Verses 2‑4 are very pertinent.
Psa 12:2, “They (mutual admiration society) speak each one (arrogant) to his friends (acquaintances) with lips of flattery. They speak heart to heart (idiom for double standard).”
The arrogant flatters the acquaintances so that they will join him in the conspiracy, using the old ploy, “you have been overlooked; you are better than they.” The arrogant flatters the acquaintances, causing the acquaintances to become dissatisfied with authority. They both malign and slander the authority. Finally, they both combine to form an effective conspiracy.
The purpose of the conspiracy: The arrogant wants to replace the authority, and the acquaintances wants to be recognized by the authority as being great in the organization.
In fact, the kingdom of darkness with Satan as it leader shall obtain earthly kingdoms by flatteries.
Dan 11:21, “In his place a despicable person will arise, on whom the honor of kingship has not been conferred, but he will come in a time of tranquility and seize the kingdom by intrigue.”
The Hebrew Verb for “intrigue” is חֲלַקְלַקּוֹת – CHALAQLAQQOTH, (khal-ak-lak-koth), by reduplicating CHALAG that means, “flattery, smoothness, slipperiness, fine promises,” etc.
As Dan 11:34 also says, “Now when they fall they will be granted a little help, and many will join with them in hypocrisy (CHALAQLAQQOTH).”
I believe that Satan used flattery to proselyte the angels to rebel against God in eternity past.
Therefore, we are warned to stay away from the flatterer, who typically has “something up their sleeve,” a conspiracy in mind, to promote themselves. They flatter you so that you enter into their little plot and do their dirty work for them many times unbeknown to you.
And remember, you do not have to worry about uncovering their scheme, plot, or even their true intentions; you only need to recognize them as a flatterer and then disassociate with them.
Marriage and Flattery:
There is no greater form of Impersonal Love than a woman respecting her husband. Yet, when a woman stops cycling God’s Word through her soul and allows her Sin Nature and arrogance to take over her soul, she stops responding to her husband and instead begins reacting to him. At that point, a vacuum is created in her soul which drains the inner beauty out of her soul, especially when she neglects and rejects the Problem-Solving Devices.
When the arrogance complex kicks in, she is now highly vulnerable to flattery and the enticement of others, because she has imagined she deserves better things. This was the case of the woman in the Garden of Eden.
Gen 3:4-5, “The serpent said to the woman, You surely will not die! 5For God knows that in the day you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.’”
When that happens, she is highly vulnerable to the first man that comes along that says a few good things about her. She becomes a target for the predatory male, just as Satan targeted the Woman in the Garden and tempted her away from her relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ.
That is why, as a protection for both the woman and the man, God commands the woman to respect her husband, and the husband to love his wife, Eph 5:22-28.
Eph 5:22-24, “Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.”
When a wife does not respect her husband, she is tempting his arrogance complex of sins to desire to be respected in some form or manner, which in turn could lead him to seek out another who will respect him.
Likewise, the husband must apply impersonal and unconditional love towards his wife so that she responds to him as God intended it to be. When he does not love her, he is tempting her arrogance complex of sins that makes her vulnerable to the flattery of other men.
And the fact is, no man can force a woman to love him by flattery, unless she has reacted to her husband in some negative way and has made herself vulnerable to the flattery of another.
Eph 5:25, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. 28So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies.”
Compare with Col 3:18-19; Titus 2:4-5; 1 Peter 3:1-9.
The Defense Against Flattery:
Spiritually Immature Believers are Susceptible to Flattery:
Prov 14:15, “The naive believes everything, but the prudent man considers his steps.”
“Naïve” is פֶּ֫תִי – PETHIY in the Hebrew and is a word for, “fool, stupid, empty headed,” etc., which describes people who are easily persuaded by flattery, delusion, deception, and enticement, and it actually means, “a stupid fool.”
These believers have no Bible Doctrine in their soul, and they are usually easily trapped by the details of life. Flattery will score points with an empty-headed individual, because the simple fool lacks discernment when associating with people who have loose morals and negative volition towards Bible Doctrine.
Therefore, they are exhorted in Prov 8:5, “O naive ones, discern prudence; and, O fools, discern wisdom.”
As you know, the flatterer is one who preys on weaker vessels, especially “the lonely ones.” Loneliness is a signal to the flatterer to do his thing. It is an invitation to the flatterer to take advantage of someone’s weakness. Loneliness makes a person’s soul vulnerable. And what makes the soul vulnerable, makes the body vulnerable too.
Having Wisdom in Your Soul Gives You Discernment Regarding Flattery:
Prov 2:10‑17 teaches that good decisions always result from having metabolized Bible doctrine in your soul, called חָכְמָה – CHOKMAH or wisdom, (the equivalent of the Greek word ἐπίγνωσις – EPIGNOSIS). When you apply the CHOKMAH in your soul on a consistent basis, you will achieve Spiritual Adulthood, including the first stage called Spiritual Self-Esteem, where God’s Word is now wisdom in your soul being applied on a consistent basis.
Psa 119:103-104, “How sweet are Your words to my taste! Yes, sweeter than honey to my mouth! 104From Your precepts I get understanding; therefore I hate every false way.”
Prov 2:16 and 6:24 tell us of the protection Wisdom (Bible Doctrine) has over our souls.
Prov 2:16, “To deliver you from the strange woman, from the adulteress who flatters with her words.”
Prov 6:24, “To keep you from the evil woman, from the smooth tongue of the adulteress.”
Wisdom should also give you strength to restrain yourself from gullibility and flattery, Eccl 7:21.
Eccl 7:21, “Also, do not take seriously all words which are spoken.”
Wisdom gives us the strength to avoid the pitfalls of flattery and gullibility. It has a filtering system that rejects the flattery and the praise of men. And it gives you the strength to keep from believing it!
- Wisdom gives you balance, Ecc 7:16-18.
- Wisdom gives you strength, Ecc 7:19.
- Wisdom allows you to accept the imperfections of life, Ecc 7:20.
- Wisdom gives you the strength to overlook the faults of others, Ecc 7:21.
- Wisdom gives you strength to restrain yourself from gullibility and flattery, Ecc 7:21.
- Wisdom gives you the strength to resist criticism.
- Wisdom gives you insight.
- Wisdom reveals the fact that intimate relationships are compelling but often not satisfying.
So, be careful of flattery and praise from people, as David said in Psa 5:9, “There is nothing reliable in what they say; their inward part is destruction; their throat is an open grave; they flatter with their tongue.”
Achieving Spiritual Self-Esteem:
Spiritual Self-Esteem is that virtue of the Predesigned Protocol Plan of God; whereby, the believer’s confidence is based on Bible doctrine which he has learned through perception, metabolization, and application, and the believer’s respect for self is linked to Grace-Orientation.
The secret to Spiritual Self-Esteem is respect for God and His Word. Under Spiritual Self-Esteem, you are free from anthropocentric thinking (self-centeredness), legalistic bullying, cosmic evangelism, people dependence distractions, patronizing, flattery (especially from seductive women or manipulating men), counseling, and dependence on others or chemicals.
Spiritual Self-Esteem (SSE) is the assertion of Bible doctrine resident in the soul; it is living by your own thinking from that doctrine and is making application of metabolized doctrine under all circumstances including suffering for blessing. The Christian who gains SSE has crossed the dividing line between spiritual childhood and spiritual adulthood, between spiritual dependence and spiritual independence, between punitive suffering and suffering for blessing. SSE is the giant step in the believer’s life as the first stage of spiritual adulthood having these characteristics in the believer:
- The beginning of contentment, 2 Cor 12:10; Phil 4:11; 1 Tim 6:6-8; Heb 13:5.
- Mental stability, Phil 4:12-13.
- Composure marked by self-assurance, James 1:22-25.
- Grace orientation to life, Rom 6:1; 12:10.
- Doctrinal orientation to reality, Rom 12:3; Eph 4:23.
- Good decisions from a position of strength, Eph 6:10; Phil 2:2; Col 1:11.
- The beginning of personal control of your life, Col 2:7; Heb 12:2-3.
- The beginning of a Personal Sense of Destiny, Psa 23:4; Mat 6:26-27; Rom 8:31-32; 1 Peter 1:13; Heb 6:18-19.
- The exercise of self-control, self-restraint, poise, and self-regulation, Prov 19:11; 1 Cor 14:33; 2 Tim 2:10.
- A new attitude toward life, John 15:10-17.
Spiritual Self-Esteem is the “declaration of independence” of the believer’s Royal Priesthood. As such, you are not tempted, nor vulnerable to the flattering lips of the tempter or temptress, because you know it for what it is. You are empowered by God’s Word and the Holy Spirit to overcome the disingenuous complements of others.
Spiritual maturity develops a fantastic common sense, a marvelous sense of humor, and a way of life of flexibility that shows you when, how, and where to stop and go no further, and to keep going forward in God’s Plan
Instead of living your life drowning in the rat race of arrogance and Satan’s Cosmic System, a life having been influenced by cosmic evangelism; whereby, you have developed cosmic standards for your life or standards that other people have developed for you and evangelized you to embrace, (by flattery, encouragement, and persuasion), God has developed a unique Christian Way of Life that far outreaches anything this world can offer.
Eph 3:16-19, “That He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in the inner man, 17so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; and that you, being rooted and grounded in love, 18may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, 19and to know the love of Christ which surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled up to all the fullness of God.”
Impersonal / Unconditional Love Combats Flattery:
Impersonal Love is that problem-solving device of Christianity which is defined as unconditional love toward all mankind. It emphasizes the virtue of the subject rather than attraction to an object or rapport with an object. When the believer is operating under Impersonal Love, he will function under the standards of Bible Doctrine in his soul rather than being influenced by the flattery, attraction, attention, or reciprocity that those of the world try to offer him.
Impersonal love as a Problem-Solving Device is mandated in all dispensations under the one phrase, “Love thy neighbor as you love yourself,” Lev 19:18; Mat 19:19; 22:39; Mark 12:31; Rom 13:9; Gal 5:14.
Impersonal Love is manufactured by Bible doctrine in your soul, where as Personal Love can be manufactured by human viewpoint, including sin nature control, lust, emotion, vanity, arrogance, human desires, and self-gratification, and is therefore susceptible to flattery.
Impersonal Love never depends on approbation, flattery, patronage, hypocrisy, attention, social climbing, all of the things by which someone latches onto someone else, using them for whatever purposes they have in their soul.
Impersonal love is a Relaxed Mental Attitude toward all men from having spiritual momentum in your life. Therefore, impersonal love cannot be corrupted by flattery, human rapport, emotional rapport, or the exploitation of arrogance. Therefore, it is free from any mental attitude sins.
That is why you need God’s Word to be resident in your soul, so that you operate under Impersonal Love and do not give over to flattery to accomplish your goals and desires, while at the same time not being negatively influenced or deceived by a flatterer, (cosmic evangelist), who is trying to persuade you in a certain direction and lead you astray.
1 John 2:4-5, “The one who says, “I have come to know Him,” and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him; 5but whoever keeps His word, in him the love of God has truly been perfected. By this we know that we are in Him.”
1 John 2:9-11, “The one who says he is in the Light and yet hates his brother is in the darkness until now. 10The one who loves his brother abides in the Light and there is no cause for stumbling in him. 11But the one who hates his brother is in the darkness and walks in the darkness, and does not know where he is going because the darkness has blinded his eyes.”
Under impersonal love, the believer functions under his own standards rather than being influenced by flattery, attraction, attention, or reciprocation. And not only does the impersonal love of the Royal Family Honor Code exclude mental attitude sins and verbal sins, but demands toleration, respect for privacy, and avoidance of distracting anyone from Bible doctrine. Therefore, flexibility is related to Impersonal Love.
Separating from Those That are Prone to Flattery:
Mat 10:34‑37, “Do not think that I came to bring peace on the earth; I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. 35For I came to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; 36and a man’s enemies will be the members of his household. 37He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me; and he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me.”
Separation should be applied to both believers and unbelievers who reside inside Satan’s Cosmic System who seek to influence you to leave God’s Power System and plan for your life. Whether it be a friend, family member, pastor, etc., you are to separate from those who are trying to separate you from your walk with God, who many times use flattery to try to lead you astray, (i.e., cosmic evangelism).
Therefore, it is very important that you recognize the sins of the tongue and separate yourself from them and those who practice them.
Rom 16:17‑18, “I urge you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and put obstacles in your way that are contrary to the teaching you have learned. Keep away from them. For such people are not serving our Lord Christ, but their own appetites (emotions). By smooth talk and flattery, they deceive the minds of naive people.”
Your association with unbelievers, with businesses, with organizations, with anything that is professional or non-professional should all be in the nature; whereby, your honor and integrity is intact and shows. You should influence them. They should never influence you. But if you are in the cosmic system, they will always influence you.
Prov 13:20, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, but a companion of fools shall become corrupted.”
- Separation from unbelievers who reside inside the cosmic system is taught in 2 Cor 6:14‑17.
- Separation from immoral degenerate believers who reside inside the cosmic system is taught in 1 Cor 5:9-13.
- Separation is a function performed when you are inside of God’s Power System, (i.e., the filling of the Holy Spirit plus the application of Bible Doctrine in your soul). If you are in the cosmic system, you are a part of it and outside of God’s Power System, and therefore you can only separate from it through Rebound.
In grace God provides you a way to separate out from the darkness of sin and Satan’s Cosmic System. He provided the opportunity for Rebound, 1 John 1:5-10.
Once you have Rebounded, through the leading ministry of God the Holy Spirit, you can now cycle Bible doctrine in your soul and choose to separate from the situation you are in, either mentally or physically.
True mental and physical separation is impossible without the filling of the Holy Spirit and the function of the application of metabolized Bible doctrine.
There are two forms of separation the believer can apply to avoid the flatterer.
- Mental Separation.
- Physical Separation.
Mental Separation emphasizes the integrity, honor and doctrinal application of the believer residing inside of God’s Power System, who applies Impersonal and Unconditional Love towards others rather than personal love towards them. Therefore, the application of Impersonal and Unconditional Love is the means of mental separation from those who reside inside of Satan’s Cosmic System. Cf Mat 9:10; Mark 2:15; Luke 5:29-30; 15:1.
Mat 9:10, “Then it happened that as Jesus was reclining, (notice Jesus’ Relaxed Mental Attitude here), at the table in the house, behold, many tax collectors and sinners came and were dining with Jesus and His disciples.”
Impersonal love is not influenced by those loved ones who are residing in the cosmic system, who are reversionistic and antagonistic toward you and Bible doctrine, and are using flattery to cosmically evangelize you.
Impersonal and Unconditional Love functions on the integrity of God’s Word resident in your soul, having developed Divine norms and standards in the heart of your soul, and is not compromised by means of flattery or other verbal sins.
Therefore, Mental Separation emphasizes Personal Love for God and also for friends or loved ones who also have integrity in their souls, while applying to all others Impersonal and Unconditional Love.
Mental separation, in contrast to physical separation, is a separation which does not give over to flattery, and other sins of the tongue directed toward you, by way of arrogance and gullibility. Instead, you reject mentally the flattering of the flatterer and are not susceptible to their ploys.
Nevertheless, there are some cases where simply switching from Personal Love to Impersonal / Unconditional Love will not work. In those cases, you must physically separate yourself from the person or situation.
All physical separation must be preceded by mental separation.
Physical Separation means to avoid any personal contact with a person under any circumstances. You regard that person as dead. This means severance of all relation with that person of any kind based on Impersonal Love, and is apart from expressing arrogance within your soul. In other words, you do not do it because you think you are better than they are.
The most basic reason for physical separation is to avoid the compromise of Bible doctrine resident in your soul, so you separate, so as to not have a negative effect upon your soul, Prov 1:10‑19; Jer 15:16‑17; 1 Peter 4:3‑4.
Physical separation is sometimes needed to maintain your priorities and to use your volition to remain inside God’s Power System, 2 Tim 3:5; 2 Thes 3:6, 14-16 and in Rom 16:17‑18, “turn away from them” is physical separation from troublemakers.
2 Tim 3:5, “Holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these.”
2 Thes 3:6, “Now we command you, brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you keep away from every brother who leads an unruly life and not according to the tradition which you received from us.”
2 Thes 3:14, “If anyone does not obey our instruction in this letter, take special note of that person and do not associate with him, so that he will be put to shame. 15Yet do not regard him as an enemy, but admonish him as a brother. 16Now may the Lord of peace Himself continually grant you peace in every circumstance. The Lord be with you all!”
When Jesus was facing His biggest challenge, He separated Himself from His companions and was alone in private conversation with the Father. Mat 26:36-46; Mark 14:32-42; Luke 22:39-46, Garden of Gethsemane Example of Separation.
Therefore, physical separation is sometimes needed to maintain your priorities; whereby, you use your volition to remain inside God’s Power System and Plan for your life so that you are not negatively affected by the flatterer. In addition, when some form of tyranny says, “No you cannot go to church,” or someone severely abuses you in some way, etc., then physical separation is demanded.
The Personal Love of God the Father:
Our final topic on the “Doctrine of Flattery” and subcategory, “The Defense against Flattery,” is God the Father’s Personal Love for you.
Because God is virtuous, His love is totally devoid of sin, human good, evil, and egotism. Furthermore, God is free from hypocrisy, flattery, or any patronizing influence of mankind, just as the believer walking in righteousness is.
James 1:13, “Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am being tempted by God;” for God cannot be tempted by evil, and He Himself does not tempt anyone.”
Flattery is a form of evil that is typically used to tempt others into doing something for the flatterer. God never deals with mankind based on our praise, flattery, and laudation of Him, especially when we have an ulterior motive.
God’s love towards you is never sustained by attractiveness or worthiness of the object, nor does it depend on the merit, works, sacrifices, flattery, or legalistic modus operandi of human beings.
Since God is love, always has been love, and always will be perfect virtue-love, God does not fall in love, nor can His love be compromised, corrupted, or bribed by good deeds, human experience, or flattery.
God’s love exists eternally, unsustained by Himself or any other source. 1 John 4:8b, “For God is love (noun, ἀγάπη – AGAPE).”
God’s love is immutable which means, “unchanging;” therefore, His love does not improve or decline, and flattery has no effect on God’s love to increase it or decrease it. Remember that we cannot equate God’s love with human love, which can be based on sin and emotion, without being blasphemous.
1 John 4:16, “We have come to know and have believed the love (AGAPE) which God has for us. God is love (AGAPE), and the one who abides in love (AGAPE) abides in God, and God abides in him.”
God personally loves the believer because of His righteousness, which He imputed to you on the day of your salvation when you, through your non-meritorious act of faith, (believed on His Son Jesus Christ.) At that moment, God entered you into His eternal family, and now He personally loves you, His child.
Now that you are in the family of God, you must rest in that fact, and never enter into a system of works that includes any form of flattery towards God in order to gain His favor. You could not gain His favor as an unbeliever for your salvation, and you cannot gain His favor as His child through a system of works including flattery.
Eph 2:8-10, “For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; 9not as a result of works, so that no one may boast. 10For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.”
Therefore, we stand confident in the knowledge that God loves us no matter what we do after our salvation, because His love is not dependent on us.
And as our loving Father, if we do fall into sin, carnality, or reversionism and decide to reside inside of Satan’s Cosmic System, as a result of giving over to the flatter or cosmic evangelist, God’s Personal love for His child will bring about Divine discipline in order to wake them up and get them back into His Plan and Power System, Prov 3:11-12; 13:24; Rev 3:19; cf. 1 Cor 11:27-32.
Prov 3:11-12, “My son, do not reject the discipline of the LORD or loathe His reproof, 12For whom the LORD loves He reproves, even as a father corrects the son in whom he delights.”
Prov 13:24, “He who withholds his rod hates his son, But he who loves (אָהַב – AHEB) him disciplines him diligently.”
Rev 3:19, “Those whom I love (φιλέω – PHILEO), I reprove and discipline; therefore be zealous and repent.”
In order to recover from God’s discipline, the believer must “confess” his sins before the Lord, according to 1 John 1:5-2:2.
This is not just a New Testament principle. Compare: Psa 32:5; 51: all; 66:17-20; Prov 28:13; Dan 9:18-20; Hos 14:1-4.
Psa 66:17‑20, “I cried to Him with my mouth, and He was extolled with my tongue. 18If I regard wickedness in my heart, the Lord will not hear; 19But certainly God has heard; He has given heed to the voice of my prayer. 20Blessed be God, who has not turned away my prayer nor His lovingkindness from me.” (Between verse 18 and verse 20 is Rebound.)
Psa 32:5, “I acknowledged my sin to You, and my iniquity I did not hide; I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the LORD”; And You forgave the guilt of my sin. Selah.”
Prov 28:13, “He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses (rebound) and forsakes (recover) them will find compassion.”
The Hebrew verb for “compassion” here is RACHAM – רָחַם in the Pual, Imperfect, that means, “to love, love deeply, have mercy, be compassionate, have tender affection, and have compassion.” This is another term describing the Father’s love for His children.
The Pual is the Intensive Passive which means, “we absolutely receive His love in the forgiveness of our sins and restoration to fellowship with Him.”
The Imperfect Tense means, it is an ongoing action. So, this is not a one-shot deal, but what God does for us over and over again, as we confess our sins and turn away from evil.
Notice Daniel’s prayer in Dan 9, where he clearly states that God’s love and compassion are not based on human merits but on God’s Essence alone.
Dan 9:18-20, “For we are not presenting our supplications before You on account of any merits of our own, but on account of Your great compassion, (the Cross of Jesus Christ). 19O Lord, hear! O Lord, forgive! O Lord, listen and take action! For Your own sake, O my God, do not delay, because Your city and Your people are called by Your name. 20Now while I was speaking and praying, and confessing my sin and the sin of my people Israel, and presenting my supplication before the LORD my God in behalf of the holy mountain of my God, 21while I was still speaking in prayer, then the man Gabriel, whom I had seen in the vision previously, came to me in my extreme weariness about the time of the evening offering.”
In verse 18, “compassion” is the Hebrew noun RECHEM, רֶחֶם, that literally means, “womb,” yet some scholars understand it to be similar to the intimacy and care of a mother (NIDOTTE, 3:1097). So, it comes to mean, “The intense love God has for his children, His compassion for them.”
As Daniel said, “it is not on account of any merits of our own.”
See also: Psa 32:10; 136:24-143:8; Prov 16:6 Cf. Psa 36:10-11
Psa 32:10, “Many are the sorrows of the wicked, but he who trusts in the LORD, lovingkindness shall surround him.”
Psa 136:24, “And has rescued us from our adversaries, for His lovingkindness is everlasting.”
Psa 143:8, “Let me hear Your lovingkindness in the morning; for I trust in You; teach me the way in which I should walk; for to You I lift up my soul.”
Prov 16:6, “By lovingkindness and truth iniquity is atoned for, and by the fear of the LORD one keeps away from evil.”
The perfect love of God always comes from perfect virtue. Because God is holy and unchangeable, Divine love cannot be compromised by sins, human good, evil, including Christian degeneracy, dead works, or any function of the sin nature, including flattery. This means that Divine love cannot be corrupted by any creature failure.
God’s love is never frustrated or disappointed. His love existed before there were any creatures to love. His love exists with or without an object, since it is always a part of His perfect essence.
Therefore, Divine love is never sustained by human attraction, human rapport, human merit, human worthiness, morality, self-righteousness. Any system of human merit is never the basis for God extending His love to mankind. God’s love cannot be bought by your good behavior, good deeds, Christian service, and especially not by your flattery.
Obviously, God’s love is permanent, stable, and virtuous, and therefore becomes a fantastic Problem-Solving Device for the believer. Since God’s love cannot be divorced from His eternity, infinity, integrity, virtue, stability, or any other attribute, God’s love has great significance for us.
So, do not think you have to jump through hoops or do anything to gain His love. Just know that He already loves you and desires to express that love to you.
Rom 5:5, “And hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.”
Therefore, we know God loves us, because we are His children, and as a result we do not need to flatter Him to gain His love.
Likewise, we should stand assured knowing that God loves us despite of who we are, causing us to be filled with His love and not devoid of it, where we are looking for others to love us, which typically will be in all the wrong places, being susceptible to the flattering of the flatterer.
Prov 5:3, “For the lips of an adulteress drip honey and smoother than oil is her speech.”