1 Cor 11:23, “For I received from the Lord that which I also delivered [PARADIDOMI – παραδίδωμι (par-ad-id’-o-mee)] to you, that the Lord Jesus in the night in which He was betrayed (PARADIDOMI) took bread.”
The betrayal by Judas Iscariot was first prophesized in Psa 41:9, “Even my close friend in whom I trusted, who ate my bread, has lifted up his heel against me.”
Notice the difference in the two passages. In our verse our Lord only says, “he.” But in the Psalm, we have more information, “even my close friend who I trusted.” This is the emphasis of the betrayal of a close friend. Our Lord says only “he,” leaving the disciple to study the prophecy for further application.
A wise man once said to me, “You haven’t been betrayed, until you have been betrayed by a close friend.” In other words, the betrayal of a close friend, companion, or family member hurts more and cuts deeper than the betrayal of a casual acquaintance or a known enemy.
Therefore, we have a clue as to the pain of the Cross of Jesus Christ. The cross was not just an unconscious act of impersonal love. The Cross was a deep cut in the heart of our Lord, signified in this one place by the betrayal of a close friend. That is, the sins of the world are the sins of loved ones that our Lord had to bare.
Nevertheless, Jesus’ quote at the end of verse 23 from Psalm 41:9 shows that even Judas’ betrayal of Him and His coming death were within the Plan and purpose of God. Compare with John 13:2, 21-22, 26; Mat 10:4; 26:21-25, 45; 27:3; Mark 3:19; 14:18-21, 41; Luke 22:21-23.
Doctrine of Betrayal
1 Cor 11:23, “For I received from the Lord that which I also delivered to you, that the Lord Jesus in the night in which He was betrayed took bread.”
Betrayal is the Greek compound word PARADIDOMI – παραδίδωμι (par-ad-id’-o-mee). It is a compound word made up from PARA – παρά (par-ah’) and DIDOMI – δίδωμι (did’-o-mee). PARA is a preposition meaning, “from beside, by the side of, by, beside, or above.”
DIDOMI meaning, “to give.” So PARADIDOMI comes to mean, “to hand over, to give or deliver over, or to betray.”
Thayer defines it as:
1) To give into the hands (of another).
2) To give over into (one’s) power or use. To deliver to one something to keep, use, take care of, or manage. To deliver up one to custody, to be judged, condemned, punished, scourged, tormented, put to death. To deliver up treacherously by betrayal and to cause one to be taken and to deliver one to be taught or molded.
3) To commit, to commend.
4) To deliver verbally commands or rites, or to deliver by narrating, to report.
5) To permit allow, when the fruit will allow, that is when its ripeness permits. Gives itself up, presents itself.
“Betrayer” is the Greek noun PRODOTES – προδότης (prod-ot’-ace) that comes from PRODIDOMI – προδίδωμι (prod-id’-o-mee) which means, “to give before, give first, or first given.” PRODOTES is found in Acts 7:52, and can also mean, “a traitor” as in Luke 6:16 and 2 Tim 3:4.
Acts 7:52, “Which one of the prophets did your fathers not persecute? They killed those who had previously announced the coming of the Righteous One, whose betrayers and murderers you have now become.”
Luke 6:16, “Judas the son of James, and Judas Iscariot, who became a traitor.”
2 Tim 3:1-4, “But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. 2For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, 4treacherous (traitors), reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these.”
The Wikipedia Dictionary defines “betrayal” as, “a form of deception or dismissal of prior presumptions, is the breaking or violation of a presumptive social contract (trust, or confidence) that produces moral and psychological conflict within a relationship amongst individuals, between organizations, or between individuals and organizations. Often betrayal is the act of supporting a rival group, or it is a complete break from previously decided upon or presumed norms by one party from the others.”
Webster’s New Collegiate Dictionary defines “betray” as, “to lead astray, especially seduce, to deliver to an enemy by treachery, to fail or desert especially in time of need, to reveal unintentionally, show or indicate, to disclose in violation of confidence, or to prove false.”
- To deliver or expose to an enemy by treachery or disloyalty: Benedict Arnold betrayed his country.
- To be unfaithful in guarding, maintaining, or fulfilling: to betray a trust.
- To disappoint the hopes or expectations of; be disloyal to: to betray one’s friends.
- To reveal or disclose in violation of confidence: to betray a secret.
- To reveal unconsciously (something one would preferably conceal): Her nervousness betrays her insecurity.
- To show or exhibit; reveal; disclose: an unfeeling remark that betrays his lack of concern.
- To deceive, misguide, or corrupt: a young lawyer betrayed by political ambitions into irreparable folly.
- To seduce and desert.
Even though the above has attempted to define betrayal, many believe the definitions are still inadequate. For example, Rodger L. Jackson, author of the article, The Sense and Sensibility of Betrayal: Discovering the Meaning of Treachery Through Jane Austen, writes that “there has been surprisingly little written about what we even mean by the term.”
In psychology, practitioners describe betrayal as the breaking of a social contract; however, critics of this approach claim that the term social contract does not accurately reflect the conditions and motivations for, and effects of, betrayal.
Philosophers Judith Shklar and Peter Johnson, authors of The Ambiguities of Betrayal and Frames of Deceit respectively, contend that while no clear definition of betrayal is available, betrayal is more effectively understood through literature.
Still others like Ben-Yehuda in (“Betrayals and Treason Violations of Trust and Loyalty” Westview Press) framed all forms of betrayals and treason under a unifying analytical framework using loyalty, trust, and moral boundaries as explanatory tools.
Psychological Effect of Betrayal:
Betrayal can have a significant detrimental effect on the psyche of an individual, so much so that recent Psychology has adopted a new term for mental health treatment call Betrayal Trauma.
Betrayal trauma occurs when people or institutions that are depended on for survival, violate human trust. An example of betrayal trauma is childhood physical, emotional, or sexual abuse.
The term was first used by Professor J.J. Freyd in 1991, and today most mental health professionals accept betrayal trauma as, a possible alternative diagnosis to traditional post-traumatic stress disorder.
[Prof J.J. Freyd’s Home Page at the University of Oregon, http://dynamic.uoregon.edu/~jjf/defineBT.html]
A subset of this is called Political Betrayal. Most adults living in western democracies place trust in the state of which they are a citizen. If this trust is betrayed, at its worst, the individual can suffer psychological betrayal trauma. Betrayal trauma has symptoms similar to post-traumatic stress disorder, although the element of amnesia and dissociation is likely to be greater.
The key difference between traditional post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and betrayal trauma is that the former is historically seen as being caused primarily by fear; whereas, betrayal trauma is a response to extreme anger. Fear and anger are the two sides to the fight-flight response, and as such are our strongest and most basic psychological emotions.
Pure political betrayal trauma can be caused by situations such as wrongful arrest and conviction by the legal system of a western democracy; or by discrimination, bullying, or other serious mistreatment by a state institution or powerful figure within the state.
In practice, however, it is likely that most people with symptoms of psychological trauma have elements of both fear based PTSD and anger based Betrayal Trauma, not one or the other. Certainly, in the most serious cases of PTSD, there is an element of both. For instance, the fact that a soldier is sent to war by the state is an important element in the reasons for war being a major cause of PTSD. In cases where soldiers are horrified by the actions or orders of their commanding officers, or where they are victims of friendly fire, their PTSD is likely to be worse because the element of betrayal will be that much greater. Similarly, one of the most psychologically traumatizing events in history, the Holocaust is almost certainly so serious a case, because the element of state betrayal is as great as the element of fear trauma. (Helen Garrod’s Political Betrayal Trauma Page)
Some of the feelings people experience when they have been betrayed include; being, furious, resentful, heartbroken, numb, humiliated, rejected, hurt, shattered, and not safe.
Unfortunately, in our day and age, betrayal seems to be on the rise. If you have actually been betrayed or have the false sense of being betrayed, it helps to know that you are not alone. Broken trust is a universal experience and feeling.
One of the reasons betrayal is on the rise is because people, who have an inherent need to belong and be part of a relationship, have rejected the greatest offer for relationship, that is union with Christ. As a result, people are open and vulnerable to pseudo relationships that inevitably will lead to betrayal and the painful emotions that come with it.
The emotional pain that can come from betrayal can hurt as much, if not more than a physical injury. Instead of the trauma being on the outer body, the trauma is in the mental, emotional, and Spiritual realm.
Rom 2:9, “There will be tribulation and distress for every soul of man who does evil, of the Jew first and also of the Greek.”
The prophecy given to Mary regarding her son said in Luke 2:35, “And a sword will pierce even your own soul—to the end that thoughts from many hearts may be revealed.”
In foretelling of His betrayal and resultant death, our Lord said in John 12:27, “Now My soul has become troubled; and what shall I say, ‘Father, save Me from this hour’? But for this purpose I came to this hour.”
Our Lord said in the Garden of Gethsemane of his betrayal by Judas in Mark 14:34, “And He said to them, “My soul is deeply grieved to the point of death; remain here and keep watch.”
Peter said of Lot’s Spiritual torment in 2 Peter 2:8-9, “(For by what he saw and heard that righteous man, while living among them, felt his righteous soul tormented day after day by their lawless deeds), 9then the Lord knows how to rescue the godly from temptation.”
When we think of betrayal as a wound to the soul, it follows that to heal the wound, we must work on the same.
It also goes to follow that when the betrayed regains peace of mind, heart and soul, they then can make healthy doctrinal decisions about the damaged relationship(s), that is forgiveness can become a possibility.
Psalm 51:12, “Restore to me the joy of Your salvation and sustain me with a willing spirit.”
Gal 6:1, “Brethren, even if anyone is caught in any trespass, you who are Spiritual, restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; each one looking to yourself, so that you too will not be tempted.”
Isa 51:18-19, “‘I have seen his ways, but I will heal him; I will lead him and restore comfort to him and to his mourners, creating the praise of the lips. Peace, peace to him who is far and to him who is near’, says the LORD, ‘and I will heal him.””
2 Cor 2:9, “For to this end also I wrote, so that I might put you to the test, whether you are obedient in all things. 10But one whom you forgive anything, I forgive also; for indeed what I have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, I did it for your sakes in the presence of Christ, 11so that no advantage would be taken of us by Satan, for we are not ignorant of his schemes.”
Satan is the Author of Betrayal:
Even though we can point the finger at others who have truly betrayed us, or through projection, we falsely believe someone has betrayed us, all betrayal comes from either the Old Sin Nature and / or demonic influence from Satan’s Cosmic System. Whether real or projected, the sin nature is involved with either the perpetrator or the self-induced victim, respectfully. Nevertheless, both are the result of Satan’s original evil. Satan is the author of sin and evil. Through the mental attitude of his own free will volition, he chose to rebel against our Lord and entered into a process of betrayal.
He rejected the authority of God and instead wanted to be like God and incited an angelic rebellion against Him. Zech 14:12-14; Ezk 28:11-19
Zech 14:12-14, ” How you have fallen from heaven, O star of the morning (Lucifer, KJV), son of the dawn! You have been cut down to the earth, you who have weakened the nations! But you said in your heart,
I will ascend to heaven; (i.e., God’s throne room).
I will raise my throne above the stars of God, (i.e., Angels)
And I will sit on the mount of assembly (i.e., man) in the recesses of the north.
14 I will ascend above the heights of the clouds (i.e., God’s glory);
I will make myself like the Most High (i.e., God).”
The plot of betrayal emanated from Satan to other angelic creatures that also had free will. It appears that this thought of betrayal worked its way through all angels, (Rev 5:4), yet some chose God’s gift of redemption, while others stayed in rebellion, Rev 12:3-4.
Satan is the prince or leader of those angels who remained in rebellion, called fallen angels or demons, and therefore, the director of all demons and all offensive action toward the human race, trying to lead mankind in betrayal as well. Mat 9:34; 12:34; Mark 3:22; Luke 11:15.
Rev 12:9, “And the great dragon was thrown down out of heaven, the serpent of ancient times who is called the devil and Satan, who deceived the entire inhabited earth; he was cast down to the earth and his angels were cast out with him.”
In human history, the sovereignty of God and free will of man coexist by Divine Decree, because human history is an extension of the prehistoric angelic betrayal. Satan learned in the prehistoric angelic conflict that he cannot attack the sovereignty of God, which is incorruptible, so he attacked the volition of other creatures. Satan came up with a plan to attack God through his creatures, since he could not attack God. Therefore, beginning with angelic creatures, he is now focused on mankind, since the issue of rebellion has already been cast for the angels, and mankind was created in history to resolve the appeal of Satan in the prehistoric angelic conflict trial. Satan attacks at the weak point, the volition of mankind and the arrogance of his Sin Nature.
The greatest attack on human volition occurred against the humanity of our Lord Jesus Christ. Jesus Christ was attacked constantly, especially in the realm of betraying God’s Plan for salvation. He was tempted beyond anything we will ever know, Mat 4:1-11. Satan is always trying to get at God through human volition.
The original sin in the Garden of Eden was also an act of betrayal and rebellion. Adam and the woman were instructed not to eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Through Satan’s temptation, Adam chose to eat, desiring to be like God. Adam’s betrayal resulted in his real Spiritual death that was then perpetuated to the entire human race, Rom 5:12‑21, and therefore, all of mankind was in rebellion against God, Gen 2:17; 3:1-7. As a result, Satan became the ruler of the world, superseding Adam in that role, John 12:31; 14:30; 16:11; 2 Cor 4:4; Eph 2:2.
Even though man is born in rebellion, Satan knows that can change because of the Cross of Jesus Christ. Therefore, his work is to keep man in betrayal or to turn the believer back to betrayal.
2 Thes 2:9-12, “That is, the one whose coming is in accord with the activity of Satan, with all power and signs and false wonders, 10and with all the deception of wickedness for those who perish, because they did not receive the love of the truth so as to be saved. 11For this reason God will send upon them a deluding influence so that they will believe what is false, 12in order that they all may be judged who did not believe the truth, but took pleasure in unrighteousness, (evil).”
The believer is to resist the influence of betrayal from Satan, by means of the Word and Holy Spirit.
2 Cor 2:11, “That no advantage be taken of us by Satan, for we are not ignorant of his strategies.”
The implication is that Satan can very easily take advantage of us, unless we understand something of his strategy, and understand why we are here.
Eph 6:11, “Put on the full armor from God so that you might always be able to hold your ground against the strategies of the devil.”
Satan plans offensive action against the human race, especially against believers, either leading us in acts of betrayal or being the recipient of betrayal. Therefore, the mandates for defensive action on the part of the believer to resist the temptations of betrayal from the power of Satan are very important.
Eph 4:27, “And do not give the devil an opportunity.”
The believer is commanded to defend against Satan’s strategy. Defensive action is a grace function. Believers are dependent upon the grace provision of God.
Eph 6:13, “Pick up and put on the full armor from God that you may always be able to hold your ground in the evil day.”
The evil day is the day of attack. The Roman soldier was able to get dressed for battle in a few minutes and be ready to defend himself. You can put on the armor of God is seconds through the confession of your sins (rebound) and the filling of the Spirit, 1 John 1:9; Eph 5:18.
James 4:7, “Hold your ground against the devil and he will flee from you.”
1 Peter 5:8-9, “Attain Spiritual self-esteem, be alert, your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for some believer to devour; therefore, hold your ground against him standing firm in Bible Doctrine.”
What God has provided in grace for our defensive action has no weaknesses. When we use our human strengths and abilities against Satan, we are defeated and overrun.
Encouragement for defensive action against Satan is also found in 1 John 4:4, where we are told, “Greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world.”
Betrayal is a deep cutting sin on the soul of the victim. As we see in Job’s wife who was a pawn for Satan when she incited betrayal by saying in Job 2:9, “Do you still hold fast your integrity? Curse God and die!”, (i.e., betray Him!).
Therefore, we need God’s armor to say no to any temptations that we may have to betray others, and to not allow the betrayal of someone against us to penetrate our souls.
Eph 6:16, “In addition to all, taking up the shield of faith with which you will be able to extinguish all the flaming arrows (acts of betrayal against you) of the evil one.”
As Job said in Job 2:10, “‘You speak as one of the foolish women speaks. Shall we indeed accept good from God and not accept adversity?’ In all this Job did not sin with his lips.”
Heb 10:39, “But we are not of those who shrink back to destruction, but of those who have faith to the preserving of the soul.”
Identifying Problems of Betrayal:
When you hear the word “betrayal,” many times you think of infidelity, but the experience is actually much broader. Therefore, the experience of real betrayal comes from a broad category of sins.
Hurt feelings can result from a love betrayal, but the same symptoms can also be triggered by an unfaithful coworker or boss, betrayal in a friendship, disloyalty from a workplace, community, even country, the loss of a loved one, and the world seeming to turn on us.
A friend knowingly breaks a confidence that causes hurt and loss of reputation. A spouse professes love and loyalty, while involved in an emotional extramarital affair. A boss or organization pretends to be honest and fair, while manipulating employees to exploit their talents.
Sometimes the ultimate betrayal is described as a loss of trust or faith in our relationship with “something bigger, something Spiritual,” that is God, the church or even our Pastor. But no matter what the source is, the emotional distress is often severe.
The Pattern Leading to Broken Trust:
- Personal and/or cultural expectations (understood by the betrayed as “The Truth”) are present.
- Based on these expectations, whole-hearted loyalty is given to another.
- “The Truth” is shattered; often due to someone making choices despite potential, major damage to the relationship.
- Shock and intense hurt feelings inevitably result.
What happens is that the betrayed assumed something to be true (and actually needed to believe for emotional safety), then discovered the core belief was false. This collapse of a belief structure results in a negative effect on the soul, called garbage of the soul. If you surrender to the emotional distress, you will begin to develop garbage in your soul that if unchecked, (through rebound, the filling of the Spirit, and the application of Bible Doctrine), will lead to blackout of the soul (B.o.S.).
(i.e., Who’s the boss? The boss of your soul should be the Word of God via the filling of God the Holy Spirit. But the Sin Nature becomes the boss of your soul when you allow betrayal, or any other attacks, to fester into the emotional complex of sins. Also, through the deployment of the 11 Problem Solving Devices, you can ward off the flaming missile attacks on your soul, Eph 6:11-19.)
Blackout of the soul is the inevitable result of emotional revolt of the soul and locked in negative volition toward Bible Doctrine. The blackout of the soul begins with the creation of a vacuum in the stream of consciousness of the right lobe of the soul. This vacuum creates a system of suction that attracts into the seven compartments of the soul the emotional complex of sins and the arrogance skills. The blackout of the soul immobilizes previously metabolized Bible Doctrine and is the status of the believer with negative volition toward Bible Doctrine, which results in his involvement with the Cosmic System. The more you allow emotions and the emotional complex of sins to control your soul, the more you increase the power of those emotions which leads to further sins in your life through blackout of the soul. Then the downward spiral begins, John 12:35; Eph 4:17-19; 1 John 1:6; 2:11.
John 12:35, “He who walks in darkness does not know where he goes.”
1 John 1:6, “If we contend that we have fellowship with him and we keep on walking in darkness, we are lying and we do not live the truth.”
1 John 2:11, “When anyone hates his fellow believer, he is in darkness and he walks in darkness, and he does not know where he is going because the darkness has blinded his eyes.”
Blackout of the Unbeliever:
2 Cor 3:14, “But their minds were hardened; for until this very day at the reading of the old covenant the same veil remains unlifted, because it is removed in Christ. 15But to this day whenever Moses is read, a veil lies over their heart; 16but whenever a person turns to the Lord, the veil is taken away.”
2 Cor 4:4, “In whose case the god of this world has blinded the minds of the unbelieving so that they might not see the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God.”
The Downward Spiral of the Blackout of the Soul:
- The more you allow emotional sins to acquire power over your life, the greater your capacity for irrationality.
- The greater your capacity for irrationality, the more garbage you accumulate in the subconscious of your soul.
- The more garbage you accumulate in the subconscious, the more you have blackout of Bible Doctrine in the soul.
Betrayal can lead to all kinds of bad emotional sins. Emotions should respond to the situations in life, but when you allow them to react to the situations in life, they become bad emotions filled with sin.
- Bad emotion is often pathological arrogance.
- Bad emotion is the function of:
- Evil obsession,
- Unrealistic expectation,
- Role model arrogance,
- The feet of clay syndrome, and
- Iconoclastic arrogance.
The Emotional Complex of Sins (Bad Emotion) has a Number of Categories:
- The Hysteria Category includes; fear, worry, anxiety, panic, consternation, and irrationality.
- The Revenge Category includes; malice, revenge motivation being your way of life, the lust to inflict injury or suffering on others, violence, murder, gossip, slander, maligning, judging, and vilification (which creates a public lie about someone who is the object of jealousy, hatred, vindictiveness, or implacability).
- The Hatred Category includes; anger, hatred, bitterness, jealousy, loathing, animosity, implacability.
- The Irrational Category includes; tantrums, vulnerability to imagined insults, snubs and further betrayal, self-pity, whining, sniveling, denial, projection, vindication, and neurosis.
- The Guilt Category includes; remorse for real or imagined sins, morbid self-reproach, emotional feelings of culpability, self-righteous arrogance, arrogant preoccupation with one’s feelings and impulses, guilt resulting from the manipulation of legalism, arrogant preoccupation with the correctness of one’s behavior.
Many of the emotional complexes of sins are a hybrid, combining the sins of the emotional complex with the sins of the arrogance complex, Rom 16:17-18; 2 Cor 6:11-12; 7:10-11; Eph 4:31; Phil 3:18-19. Appetite and affections all speak to the Emotional Complex of Sins.
2 Cor 6:12, “You are not restrained by us, but you are restrained in your own emotions.”
Phil 3:18-19, “For many walk, of whom I often told you, and now tell you even weeping, that they are enemies of the cross of Christ, whose end is destruction, whose god is their appetite (emotions), and whose glory is in their shame, who set their minds on earthly things.”
The Pattern of Recovery from Broken Trust:
When betrayed, real or imagined, most times the thought comes into awareness slowly and then builds within your soul. If you don’t take every thought captive (2 Cor 10:5), these powerful and dreadful feelings start to overwhelm your soul.
To understand betrayal, we use the analogy of peeling an onion:
- The first or outer layer represents your most recent hurtful experience. This is an event, real or imagined, where the trust we had in our relationship with others or a thing is damaged. This causes grief and suffering in the moment. We then react to the current situation through obsessive behavior and forget about any other episodes that most likely caused this current situation or our negative reaction.
- If we take the time to peel back the outer layer, we will see and remember previous incidents of broken trust, or actions we have taken that may have led to the current situation, whether through love relationships, friends, work situations (boss or coworker), etc.
- If we continue and peel yet another layer, we may find even earlier betrayal(s), even going back to our childhood, that have left an impression on us and potential scare tissue of the soul.
a) This may include the closeness and trust of a caregiver that was betrayed.
b) Early betrayals may have meant a child’s very survival.
c) In those instance, you have had to pretend your caregivers where trustworthy because acknowledging the truth was simply too scary.
d) Scenarios like that set up contradictions in our mind and emotions. It goes without saying that the loss of innocence from early betrayals of nurturers, protectors, or role models wreak havoc in the adult life.
e) For example, the pedophiles of the Catholic and other denominations’ Priesthood who preyed on children had a very detrimental effect on the individuals even in adulthood.
f) Situations like these make any new or current betrayal(s) even more traumatic.
- Peel still another layer and some psychologist say this is where inherited betrayal is stored. These would be considered traumatic wounds carried over from our ancestors somehow showing up in our souls. In Christianity, we would call this the inherited Old Sin Nature passed down from Adam (Romans 5:12-13). This is the void in our life. The void of being Spiritually dead, without a relationship with God. This then leads to feelings of being unsafe, which has been going on for thousands of years, since the original sin entered the earth. That is one reason Adam and the woman covered themselves with fig leaves, (Gen 3:7). For the first time, they had a feeling of nakedness, being unprotected due to the Sin Nature now flourishing in their souls.
Gen 3:7, “Then the eyes of both of them were opened (to their sin), and they knew that they were naked (empty and void); and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loin coverings.”
Principle: Sinful man is always trying to cover up his sin and emptiness with the wrong things.
- If we peel back some more, we finally come to the inner core of all betrayal experiences, self-betrayal. This is the damage we did to ourselves because of some emotional ordeal(s). We may not remember how or when, but we know that at some point, we betrayed ourselves.
a) Now that the line was crossed, it was much easier to keep crossing that line in bigger and bigger ways, until eventually your norms and standard were readjusted and a new line was formed far from that old line.
b) This is the process of having some set of norms and standards established within the heart of your soul, and at some point in time, you crossed the line.
c) At first, it may have been very small, insignificant, or subtle, but the line was crossed.
d) But deep in your soul there is still a faint remembrance of the old line that gnaws at you in your subconscious.
- If unchecked, self-betrayal then becomes the norm and instead of being self-confident via the old line, we become addicted to outside approval, constantly drawing new lines each and every day and with each and every relationship.
- In the Spiritual life, this means we do not have Spiritual self-esteem, (the first stage of Spiritual adulthood), and instead we look to others, (whether individuals or organizations), for our well-being, our acceptance, and our love. This disconnect in the soul, (which should be filled with Bible Doctrine establishing your norms and standards, being the source of infinite, genuine support), sets up further betrayals from the “outside” by others.
- We have to ask ourselves, is it possible that betrayal of relationship to self is the actual “ultimate betrayal”? You may even think that God has abandoned you, but in reality, many times unknowingly, we have created the disconnection because of self-betrayal, which is our own personal betrayal of God. Just as Judas had a disconnect in his soul, he first betrayed self which culminated in his betrayal of the Lord.
2 Sam 12:13, “Then David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the LORD.” And Nathan said to David, “The LORD also has taken away your sin; you shall not die.”
Principle: Guilt can lead to further self-betrayal.
1 Cor 8:12, “And so, by sinning against the brethren and wounding their conscience when it is weak, you sin against Christ.”
- True healing of betrayal will take into account all these layers leading to repentance. A focused recovery of your daily relationship with God, through the intake and application of His Word, will lead you to build true norms and standards once again, followed by the realization of forgiveness of self and others, which then leads to self-trust (being true to God and oneself).
The 11 Problem Solving Devices for Protection and/or Recovery from Betrayal:
Just as we noted above that there are many layers to the problems of life, God has provided many layers for our protection and recovery from those problems.
The Unbeliever’s Protection and Recovery:
The first form of recovery is for the unbeliever. Every member of the human race is born physically alive, yet Spiritually dead, John 3:3-21. That means we are born void of a relationship with God and Jesus Christ. Until the unbeliever accepts Jesus Christ as his personal Savior, he will always have that void in his life. When he believes in Jesus Christ as his personal Savior, he is immediately entered into union with Christ through the indwelling of God the Holy Spirit, Rom 6:3-5; 1 Cor 12:13; Eph 4:5. He then has the opportunity for true recovery in all aspects of life, physical and Spiritual.
When Adam and Eve entered into Spiritual death, as a result of their sin, they tried to cover up their problem, (being void of relationship with God due to betrayal – eating the forbidden fruit), with fig leaves. Yet, it was not until they received the ultimate problem-solving device, (faith in the perfect sacrifice of our Lord Jesus Christ on the Cross for the forgiveness of their sins), that they had true solutions to the problems of life.
This was noted by our Lord instructing Adam and Eve to remove the fig leaf covering, (which represents man’s attempt to solve his own problems as promoted to by Satan’s counterfeit system), and put on the skins of the Lamb, (Gen 3:8-21). In order to obtain the skins, what did they have to do? Nothing, except receive what was offered to them!
You see, in order to obtain the skins, a lamb had to be killed. If you look closely at the Scriptures, you will see that Adam and Eve did not kill the lamb, skin it, and then clothe themselves. No! Our Lord killed the lamb, skinned it, and gave it to them to put on. The killing of the lamb was a type of the sacrifice our Lord would perform for them and all of mankind on the Cross. The important fact is that in verse 21 our Lord gave them the skins and He clothed them!
Once they received the skins and put them on, they were entered into life with Christ once again. It was through their faith in the Word of our Lord that led them to receive His perfect solution to the nakedness and void they were experiencing.
- We cannot clothe ourselves.
- We cannot solve our problems.
- Satan’s fig leaves cannot solve our problems.
- We cannot truly solve the problems of life, especially the problem of our Spiritual death.
- Only by receiving God’s gracious work through faith in our Lord Jesus Christ and His work on the Cross for the forgiveness of our sins, do we have true solutions and recovery in life.
The Believer’s Protection and Recovery:
In God’s Word, He has given the believer of the Church Age Eleven Problem-Solving Devices (11 PSD’s) which includes:
1) Rebound – The confession of our sins.
2) Filling of God the Holy Spirit
3) Doctrinal Orientation
4) Faith Rest
5) Grace Orientation
6) Authority Orientation
7) Personal Sense of Destiny
8) Personal Love for God the Father
9) Impersonal and Unconditional Love for Man
10) Sharing the Happiness of God
11) Occupation with the Lord Jesus Christ
Each is designed to provide the believer with real solutions and healing to the problems of the past and to stop the problems of today from penetrating their souls, that would otherwise cause deep hurt and wounds to the soul.
Pastor R.B. Thieme Jr. called them the Forward Line of Troops in your soul, or the FLOT line. In other words, they are the armor of God to ward off the problems and pressures of life from becoming stress within your soul leading to deep hurt, wounds, and scar tissue upon your soul. These 11 PSD’s have application in all aspects of life, but for our topic of betrayal, we will briefly note how each can be applied to protect and/or recover from betrayal.
This is the key to beginning recovery. Rebound is the confession of your sins to God the Father as stated in Psa 32:5b; 1 John 1:9, and demonstrated by our Lord in John 13:4-11.
When we, as believers, sin we have turned off the light of Christ in our souls, 1 John 1:5-6, 8, 10. This light is emanated through us by means of the indwelling Holy Spirit. When we enter into sin, we are in essence covering up the Spirit in us, and He is not able to shine through us, Eph 5:18 compared with Mat 5:17, and help us in time of need. Likewise, any of God’s Word that is resident in our soul will also be covered up by our sin. Therefore, God and His Word cannot help us when sin is on our soul. We have become tasteless salt.
But through God’s grace of the confession of our sins. we are cleansed from the recent sins we have committed, known and unknown. With a cleansed soul God can function once again in us and we walk in the Light of Christ where true protection and recovery from the wounds of betrayal is possible, 1 John 1:7-8; Mat 5:13-16.
Through rebound, our thinking is adjusted away from the hurtful feelings of betrayal, real or imagined, and instead we focus on our relationship with God, trusting in Him for real solutions to the betrayal against us. Through rebound, we have adjusted to the justice of God, providing real solutions in life.
2) The Filling of the Holy Spirit
As noted above, when we sin, we lose the filling of the indwelling Holy Spirit. That does not say that we lose the indwelling. The Bible never says that. We in fact are sealed for the day of redemption, Eph 4:30. To use a cell or telephone analogy, when we sin, we have hung up on the Spirit. He is still there on the other end of the phone waiting to speak to us, but we have hung up on Him. However, through the Divine grace provision of PSD #1, Rebound, we are restored to the filling of Spirit.
The Filling of the Spirit is the working and functioning Holy Spirit in us. So, when filled, the Spirit is now free to provide for our every need. Therefore, when betrayed, the Spirit will guide our soul in the appropriate application of God’s Word to utilize based on the circumstance(s) at hand, John 14:26; 16:12-14; Eph 5:18; Gal 5:16.
Through the Spirit, we can also have true introspective understanding of our soul and can apply the appropriate Word to prior wounds of betrayal for healing.
3) Doctrinal Orientation
Doctrinal Orientation is when based on your Perception, Metabolization and Application (PMA) of the Word of God, you have confidence for today and regarding future events.
1 Thes 4:13 describes this attitude as follows, “We do not grieve as others who have no hope.”
This passage is in regards to the loss of a loved one, which can lead us to think we have been betrayed either by the person who has passed, (by saying, “How could they do that to me (that is die) and leave me here?”), or by God for taking the person away.
In 1 Thes 4:13, our Lord is reminding us that life is not based on our physical presence here on earth but that life is also Spiritual and eternal in heaven. Hebrews 11:1 says, “Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen”; therefore, we are to take courage in that even though for a little while they are absent from our presence, we will see them again in heaven and be with them forever.
So, the point is that, if we do not know the promises found in the Bible, (no doctrinal orientation), we will not have this knowledge and encouragement in us. But by having Doctrinal Orientation we can look beyond the physical and present, and understand things from God’s perspective, thereby operating in hope, joy, peace and love through the infinite wisdom of God’s Word and be healed and protected from the wounds of betrayal.
Gal 5:22-23, “But the fruit of the Spirit (PSD #2 plus Doctrinal Orientation) is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”
Heb 4:12, “For the word of God is alive and powerful, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to separate the soul and the spirit, both joints and marrow, able to evaluate the thoughts and the motivations of the heart (the right lobe of the soul).”
Doctrinal Orientation leads you to evaluate the thoughts and motives of your soul leading you to evaluate your own life and then develop new motivation to God’s glory.
Phil 2:13, “For it is God (in reference to PSD #’s 2 and 5) who is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure.”
Doctrinal Orientation establishes the FLOT line in your soul, (Forward Line of Troops or the 11 Problem Solving Devices).
2 Thes 3:3, “But the Lord is faithful, and He will strengthen and protect you from the evil one.”
With Doctrinal Orientation as your system of self-analysis and protection, you are able to peel back the layers of past betrayal in order to clean that garbage out of your soul, and guard it from current betrayals.
As a result, you are not being weighed down by the details and problems of life, Lam 3:19-24; Psalm 119.
Lam 3:19-24, “Remember my affliction and my wandering, the wormwood and bitterness. 20Surely my soul remembers (Doctrinal Orientation) and is bowed down within me. 21This I recall to my mind, therefore I have hope. 22The LORD’S lovingkindnesses indeed never cease, for His compassions never fail. 23They are new every morning; great is Your faithfulness. 24“The LORD is my portion,” says my soul, “Therefore I have hope in Him.””
Read also: Psalm 119.
4) Faith Rest
The third PSD has to do with trusting God wholeheartedly. This does not mean you just sit in a chair waiting on God and do nothing. It means that you pray, petitioning for your needs or intercessory for the needs of others and ask God for guidance. Then you apply the Word that God has given to you for the situation. When we use the resources He has given to us, the filling of the Spirit and His Word, while also waiting upon His timing, we are demonstrating our faith and trust in Him.
Faith Rest is a plan designed by God to stabilize our soul mentality when the pressure and adversities of life, including betrayal, come upon us, knowing that God is in absolute control of every circumstance in our life, and we therefore respond to adversity rather than react to it.
- Adversity is designed to accelerate our Spiritual growth in God’s plan.
- Reaction is when our emotions take control of our soul. Our emotions overwhelm our soul or thinking process causing us to fall apart and lose control.
- Response requires clear thinking. Response is thought, not emotion, and requires courage and Spiritual strength.
- Courage is the ability to think under pressure and to concentrate on Doctrine. Making Bible Doctrine a daily priority develops concentration and focus.
- Spiritual strength is developed through consistently depositing Doctrine in your soul, which gives you Spiritual strength to draw upon. Prov 24:10; Joshua 1:1-2.
Prov 24:10, “If you are slack in the day of distress, your strength is limited.”
When faced with a betrayal, instead of focusing on the person or situation, through reverse concentration, you focus on your relationship with God and His Word. You claim a promise from the Word, form a Biblical rationale regarding that Word and situation, reach a Biblical conclusion, and then take action by applying doctrinal conclusions to the situation.
For example; your best friend has betrayed your trust by lying to others about you. So, what do you do? First you rebound, regain the filling of the Spirit, then ask God for guidance, then recall a passage from the Bible like, Heb 13:5, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” You then realize that no matter what anyone does to me, God is always with me. You combine one passage with others like, Rom 8:31, “If God is for us, who can be against us!” You then conclude that it does not matter what others say or do, God will always love me. Added to that you remember, Romans 12:19, “Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.” You then move to action. You don’t take personal matters into your own hands that lead to sin. But, you say in your soul that you forgive your friend who was operating in sin and no matter what was said, you are confident in your relationship with God. You may then in love confront your friend to hopefully reconcile the situation showing them grace in the process. Whether they accept your grace is up to them, but you have done your part and you move on in peace and happiness knowing you have obeyed God’s Word and left the situation in His hands. By doing so, the hurtful emotions from betrayal have not penetrated your soul or left any lasting wounds, Psa 37:4-5; 2 Cor 8:9; Rom 4:20; Heb 4:1-3.
5) Grace Orientation
2 Cor 12:9, “And He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.”
In that passage, Paul is noting a significant problem that was persistent in his life. He had asked God to remove it three times yet it was not removed.
Principle: What God leaves in our lives is for our benefit.
Nevertheless, Paul realized that God’s grace was the true way to remove the problem. It may not remove the person or situation, but it will remove the pain and suffering we are experiencing in our soul. This is true for us today. We live in a world were just about everyone, including Christians, are sticking their noses into others’ business, showing no grace orientation at all, never giving people the benefit of the doubt and betraying them, “hanging them out to dry,” at every opportunity.
When we remember the grace that God has given to us, (removing every filthy rotten sin we will ever commit and giving us perfect eternal life, Eph 2:8-9), it should humble us. With true humility, we can then begin to think of others. If I have been forgiven for all the pain I caused God as a result of my sins, I should be able to forgive those who have sinned against me, Mat 6:12, 14-15.
Grace Orientation is the understanding that God deals with us in grace, and we should likewise treat others in grace. Grace is dependence on God’s wisdom rather than on our own desires and lack of wisdom, Eph 3:20. So when someone betrays us, we don’t take matters into our own hands but turn it over to God’s grace. In Grace, we then are able to impersonally love those who have betrayed us, which means forgive and forget and move on.
We aren’t commanded to like them but we are commanded to impersonally love them, Romans 12:20-21. Let grace heal your soul from prior wounds of betrayal by releasing them to God, stop dwelling on them and your hurt feelings, and realize that the Grace of God is all sufficient for every need and situation, Phil 4:11-13.
6) Authority Orientation
We noted Authority Orientation at the beginning of the Exegesis of John 13:16 above. How do we apply that Authority Orientation as a Problem-Solving Device in betrayal?
Authority has been delegated by God to four Divine Institutions.
- Self-determination is the authority of your own soul with emphasis on your volition. With freedom to make decisions comes responsibility.
- Marriage is the authority of the husband over the wife, Eph 5:22; Col 3:18.
- Family is the authority of the parents over the children, Eph 6:1-3; Col 3:20.
- Nationalism is the authority of government over the citizens of that nation.
God has certain commandments directed to the believer for obedience to authority, which is having authority orientation, Deut 11:27; 1 Sam 15:22; Jer 7:23; 11:4, 7.
Deut 11:27, “The blessing, if you listen to the commandments of the LORD your God, which I am commanding you today.”
1 Sam 15:22, “Samuel said, “Has the LORD as much delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as in obeying the voice of the LORD? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, And to heed than the fat of rams.”
Jer 7:23, “But this is what I commanded them, saying, ‘Obey My voice, and I will be your God, and you will be My people; and you will walk in all the way which I command you, that it may be well with you’.”
These commandments stem from the omniscience and sovereignty of God and are executed by the believer through the function of the Grace Apparatus for Perception, (GAP). Perception of Bible doctrine is based on a principle of authority orientation. Perception of Bible doctrine is the only way to advance spiritually.
While believer’s positive toward doctrine advance to maturity, execute the plan of God, and become invisible heroes, a positive believer cannot maintain and continue momentum unless he maintains and continues the basis for doing so, which is Authority Orientation.
Authority orientation is honor and humility; the greater the authority over people, the greater the responsibility of the leader and the people to have humility. No matter how high we go in life, there is always higher authority that must be recognized in order to perpetuate humility as orientation to life.
When we find ourselves betrayed by an authority figure, if we apply God’s word in our life, and have the filling of the Holy Spirit, and utilize what we have learned from the Problem-Solving devices, it shields us, and then we are able to overcome the trauma that can be caused by betrayal of an authority or authority figure.
We overcome betrayal when we remember the promises God has given us such as:
Deut 31:6, ““Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or tremble at them, for the LORD your God is the one who goes with you. He will not fail you or forsake you.”
John 16:32, “Behold, an hour is coming, and has already come, for you to be scattered, each to his own home, and to leave Me alone; and yet I am not alone, because the Father is with Me. 33These things I have spoken to you, so that in Me you may have peace. In the world you have tribulation, but take courage; I have overcome the world.”
Psalm 51:12, “Restore to me the joy of Your salvation and sustain me with a willing spirit.”
Isa 51:18-19, “‘I have seen his ways, but I will heal him; I will lead him and restore comfort to him and to his mourners, creating the praise of the lips. Peace, peace to him who is far and to him who is near’, says the LORD, ‘and I will heal him.””
2 Cor 2:9, “For to this end also I wrote, so that I might put you to the test, whether you are obedient in all things. 10But one whom you forgive anything, I forgive also; for indeed what I have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, I did it for your sakes in the presence of Christ, 11so that no advantage would be taken of us by Satan, for we are not ignorant of his schemes.”
7) Personal Sense of Destiny (P.S. of D.)
Having a Personal Sense of Destiny is one of my favorite PSD’s. It tells us that God has a personal Plan and destiny for each of us. I get excited when I think that God has actually spent quite a bit of time thinking about me and putting a personal plan together for my life. It gives me strength, courage, and motivation to know that He has already seen and anticipated every aspect of my life. When I compare that to all the promises found in His Word regarding His unconditional care, love, and guidance for me, I am at rest.
Another encouraging aspect of a Personal Sense of Destiny is that since you already have a destiny as a believer, you might as well start experiencing it. The experience of knowing that you have a destiny is actually your Personal Sense of Destiny. That means that awareness of your destiny provides the Personal Sense of Destiny.
This begins at Spiritual Self-Esteem, which is cognitive self-confidence from His Word and Spirit in you. It continues in Spiritual Autonomy, which is cognitive independence. It reaches its peak in Spiritual Maturity, which is cognitive invincibility. In the process, it eventually becomes so great that it outweighs any problem, any disaster, any heartache, any tragedy, and any betrayal that comes your way.
No matter what happens to you, you must always remember that you have a destiny.
As always, the fulfillment of your destiny depends on your perception of the mystery Doctrine of the Church Age, and application of your Portfolio of Invisible assets including our POLITEUMA privileges, classified as the “riches of His glory,” Rom 8:29-32; 9:23; Eph 3:16; Phil 4:19
Rom 8:29-32, “For those whom He (God the Father) foreknew, He also predestined to become conformed to the image of His Son (living in the righteousness of God), so that He (Jesus Christ) would be the firstborn among many brethren; 30and these (Church Age believers) whom He (God the Father) predestined (the grace plan of God in eternity past for salvation), He also called (The grace plan of God in time for salvation); and these whom He called, He also justified (imputation of God’s righteousness at salvation); and these whom He justified, He also glorified (antecedent grace for eternal blessing). What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who is against us? 32He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him over for us all, how will He not also with Him freely give us all things?”
In the “thorn in the flesh” analogy that we noted under Grace Orientation, Paul also recognized that a Personal Sense of Destiny was a part of the Divine solution to his problem.
2 Cor 12:9, “Most gladly (P.S. of D.) therefore I would rather boast about my weakness that the power of Christ may reside in me. 10Therefore I am well content (P.S. of D.) with weaknesses, with insults, with distresses, with persecutions, with difficulties, for Christ’s sake; for when I am weak, then I am strong.”
Remember from our earlier study in John 13:3 that our Lord recalled the broad-brush strokes of God’s Plan and promises for His life that gave Him strength and courage to go forward. That is all we need to focus on to have a Personal Sense of Destiny. The details are the details, and God will lead us to overcome them, but we should never let the details distract us from walking in the Plan and purpose God has for our lives. Psa 23:4; 84:1-3; Mat 6:26-27; with 10:29-31; Titus 2:13; Heb 6:18-19; 1 Peter 1:13.
A Personal Sense of Destiny enhances the function of the basic Problem-Solving Devices (Rebound, the Filling of the Spirit, the Faith-Rest Drill, Doctrinal and Grace Orientation), in Spiritual adulthood. It is an extension of the Faith-Rest Drill in that it makes application of doctrinal conclusions to the experiences of the believer’s life. It provides self-motivation for continued momentum inside the Spiritual life of the believer, momentum towards Occupation with Christ. And finally, it provides the true definition of “hope” as a confident expectation in relationship to your life on earth, your eternal life in heaven and the resurrection of the Church. Therefore, a Personal Sense of Destiny is a powerful Problem-Solving Device in regards to the ill effects that betrayal can have on your soul.
8) Personal Love for God the Father (PLGF)
There are several propositions about God that we must understand in order to have a relationship with Him and love Him.
- God exists.
- God reveals Himself.
- When God reveals Himself, it makes sense.
- God has a plan and purpose for your life.
- God is perfect and His plan is perfect.
- Perfect God can only create a perfect plan.
- God has created a perfect plan for imperfect persons.
Personal Love for God the Father (PLGF) is the first adult Problem-Solving Device; whereas, applying a Personal Sense of Destiny is the transition from childhood to adulthood. As such it is necessary to have this Problem-Solving Device deployed on the FLOT line of the soul in order to pass providential preventative suffering. Passing providential preventative suffering, including acts of betrayal against you, is designed to eliminate the three arrogance skills (self-justification, self-deception, and self-absorption), the sins of the arrogance complex, and the sins of the emotional complex of the soul. Therefore, PLGF provides you with the appropriate motivation to keep moving forward in the Spiritual life.
To love someone personally, you have to know how they think; therefore, we have to know how God thinks. Because God is spirit, all powerful, all knowledgeable, infinite, etc., the only way we can know Him, love Him and execute the Spiritual life He has designed for us is through the filling of the Holy Spirit who teaches His Word, His way of thinking.
1 John 2:5, “but whoever keeps His word, in him the love of God has truly been perfected. By this we know that we are in Him:”
You will never love God until you know how He thinks. The Church Age believer cannot have Personal Love for God the Father or a true perspective of the Spiritual life unless he becomes cognizant of the potential for true love for God in his own soul. This is only accomplished through the consistent intake and application of God’s Word in faith.
1 John 5:2, “By this we know that we keep on loving the children of God, when we love God and execute His mandates.”
To love God is to understand Him from metabolized Bible Doctrine circulating in the stream of consciousness. The test of loving God is keeping His commands or mandates. We respond to God through Bible Doctrine circulating in the stream of consciousness. How do you know when you have the thinking of God? When through the perception, metabolization, and application of metabolized Bible Doctrine, you apply the Problem-Solving Devices, His mandates.
Personal love means you love because the object of your love is lovable. You are focused on the object of your love and its virtue. Therefore, Personal Love for God the Father is first based on His Divine perfection, integrity, righteousness, and justice. Secondly, we love God because of the fact that He loved us first, before we ever loved Him. God the Father is lovable because of who He is and His actions toward us – His virtue, love.
Rom 5:8, “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died as a substitute for us.”
1 John 4:19, “We love, because He first loved us.”
If you have PLGF, then you will also guard and protect His Doctrines in your soul, John 14:15, “If you love Me, you will keep My mandates (Word).”
Personal Love for God:
- Comes by means of knowledge and application of Bible Doctrine, 1 John 4:16, 21.
- Is revealed by your [AGAPE – ἀγάπη (ag-ah’-pay) = impersonal and unconditional love], love toward all of mankind, 1 John 4:7-8.
- Motivates you in trials, adversity, and Spiritual warfare, Joshua 23:10-11.
- Provides strength in times of adversity and pressure and will keep you going forward in the Plan of God, Heb 11:27.
Heb 11:27, “By faith he left Egypt, not fearing the wrath of the king; for he endured, as seeing Him (PMA of Bible Doctrine) who is unseen.”
Every believer is responsible for the success or the failure of his or her own Spiritual life. God has provided everything necessary for your success in your very own Portfolio of Invisible Assets. Therefore, Personal Love for God the Father in your soul cannot coexist with the arrogance complex of sins. This means you cannot be preoccupied with self or the problem you must stay occupied with God’s thinking.
To become preoccupied with the problem, such as betrayal, is to reject the Divine solution. When the believer becomes preoccupied with the problem, he ignores the solution, because he feels so bad, he is hurting so much, and he wants sympathy. That is not the Spiritual life.
When you are preoccupied with the problem, it results in developing human solutions, which are no solutions. They instead include arrogance, emotion, problem solving incompetence, and failure to enter into the tandem function of the first two advanced Problem-Solving Devices (Personal Love for God and Impersonal Love for all Mankind).
a) To the extent you enter into these sins, you enter into irrationality, and do not have respect for God. You destroy any possibility of fulfilling the Spiritual life.
b) To the extent that you entertain bitterness as a result of betrayal or other adversities, you have no respect for God.
c) To the extent you have revenge and or guilt in your thinking as a result of betrayal, you have no respect for God. This includes fear, worry, anxiety, jealousy, vindictiveness, vilification, and malice.
d) Irrational people do not love. Therefore, emotion plus arrogance combines to form the irrational dilemma of problem solving incompetence, 1 John 4:7-21.
1 John 4:8; “The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love….11Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another…. 18There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love. 19We love, because He first loved us. 20If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for the one who does not love his brother whom he has seen, cannot love God whom he has not seen. 21And this commandment we have from Him, that the one who loves God should love his brother also.”
e) This irrationality begins with reaction to something, like betrayal in bitterness, leading you to then try, humanistically, to cover up the problem through a frantic search for happiness. This results in operation boomerang, in which your frantic search for happiness ends in greater frustration and unhappiness. Therefore, you continue to spiral downward into the various stages of reversionism.
f) Arrogance plus emotion always results in the irrational dilemma of trying to solve a problem with a problem in the state of carnality, Rom 12:3; 2 Tim 3:4-5. This is the emotional dilemma of the inept believer or loser believer, 1 John 2:15.
1 John 2:15, “Do not love the world nor the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16For all that is in the world, the lust (emotions) of the flesh and the lust (emotions) of the eyes and the boastful pride (arrogance) of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world. 17The world is passing away, and also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God lives forever.”
g) To reject the Divine solution is to reject the God given Spiritual mechanics of the protocol plan of God. Any system of application of Doctrine to experience which ignores or rejects Problem Solving Devices, distorts the truth and inevitably results in false Doctrine.
h) Human solutions listen to bad advice and rationalize the problem. If you rationalize the problem, you rationalize the solution. A rationalized solution is therefore no solution. A rationalized solution is rejection of the Divine solution.
i) The Divine solution is rejected because people want God to give them something to make them feel good.
j) You cannot solve a problem with another problem. You can only solve a problem with a Divine solution. The Divine solution is the only solution; human solutions are no solutions, Heb 13:5.
k) The loser believer sees the problem. The winner believer sees the solution. You cannot see the solution until you learn the ten Problem Solving Devices. The loser believer becomes engrossed with the problem. The winner believer becomes absorbed with the Divine solution.
l) Human solutions and Divine solutions do not coexist in your Spiritual life. When you accept a human solution like counseling or whatever, you have rejected a Divine solution. When you have rejected a Divine solution, you can only become a loser believer, 1 Cor 1:18-31.
m) When you use emotion to attempt to solve your problem, you have neutralized the Problem-Solving Device. God did not give us emotion, arrogance, or prayer as Problem Solving Devices. Metabolized Doctrine circulating in your stream of consciousness through the filling of the Spirit is the only true source for application, Eph 3:10-21.
The privacy of the believer’s royal priesthood is the sphere for doctrinal conceptualism, not someone else giving you advice. When the believer depends on others for counseling and guidance, he contradicts the Divine system for cognition and the execution of the Divine plan for each and every Church Age believer. He contradicts the Divine system for true solutions. The gift of pastor-teacher is designed to communicate to the privacy of your soul for true problem solving.
Conceptualism is learning, thinking, and solving. Through learning Bible Doctrine, the Doctrine is transferred from the pages of the Word of God to your stream of consciousness. The greatest accumulation of wealth you will ever have is Bible Doctrine circulating in your stream of consciousness.
The Spiritual life is a system of thinking through the agency of the Holy Spirit, John 14:26; 15:26-27. In solving, you deploy the Problem-Solving Devices on the FLOT line of your soul. You deal with your problems in the privacy of your own priesthood.
There are Six Principles of Application.
- Application without truth is false.
- Application without fact is folly.
- Application from emotion is irrationality.
- Application from arrogance is distorted thinking with jumbled emotion.
- Application without Doctrine is Spiritual decline into the status of loser believer.
- Application without virtue is love without motivation, capacity, verification, validity, or reality.
Capacity for loving God the Father does not come from emotional streaks of gratitude, but from the mechanics of the Spiritual life. Capacity for loving God is based on knowledge of Doctrine rather than emotion, and the application of Bible Doctrine through the PSDs rather than emotional stimulation in the sphere of self-gratification.
With Personal Love for God the Father, everything else in the Spiritual life will fall into place. As we move from Spiritual childhood to Spiritual adulthood, we realize more and more of what God the Father has done for us. and with that knowledge. we love Him more and more every day.
Luke 12:28, “But if God so clothes the grass in the field, which is alive today and tomorrow is thrown into the furnace, how much more will He clothe you? You men of little faith!”
Rom 5:9-11, 17, “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Much more then, having now been justified by His blood, we shall be saved from the wrath of God through Him. For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life. And not only this, but we also exult in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received the reconciliation….17For if by the transgression of the one, death reigned through the one, much more those who receive the abundance of grace and of the gift of righteousness will reign in life through the One, Jesus Christ.”
Jude 21, “Keep yourselves in the love of God, waiting anxiously for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ to eternal life.”
Rom 8:28, “And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.”
Jam 1:12, “Blessed is the person who perseveres under testing; because when he becomes approved, he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love Him.”
1 Cor 2:9, “But just as it stands written, `Things which the eye has not seen, and it has not entered into the right lobe of mankind all that God has prepared for those who love Him.'”
2 Cor 13:14, “The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit, be with all of you.”
9) Impersonal Unconditional Love for all of Mankind, (I. U. Love)
We now turn to the eighth Problem Solving Device in regards to protection or recovery from Betrayal or any other persecution or difficulty we may face in life.
Paul’s discussion in 1 Corinthians 13 regarding the appropriate application of Spiritual gifts, whether it is a temporary or permanent gift, 1 Cor 13:8-10, 13, goes to great lengths to define what AGAPE love, [Impersonal and Unconditional Love (I. U.)], truly is. It also helps us in application of I. U. Love in protection and recovery from betrayal. Specifically, verses 4 through the beginning of verse 8 provide 15 points of application for I. U. Love. This type of love is also described in Romans 5:3-5; Galatians 5:22-23 as empowered by God the Holy Spirit.
Rom 5:5, “And hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.”
Gal 5:22-23, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”
So, let’s break it down. All of these verbs, unless otherwise noted, are in the Present Tense and Indicative Mood. The voice is either Active or Middle/Passive Deponent, which too has an active connotation.
1 Cor 13:4, “Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant,”
Love is patient: “Patient” here is the Greek verb MAKROTHUMEO – μακροθυμέω (mak-roth-oo-meh’-o); it is a compound word from MAKROS – μακρός (mak-ros’) meaning, “long,” and THUMOS – θυμός (thoo-mos’) meaning, “passion.” So, MAKROTHUMEO comes to mean, “to “persevere,” “to be patient,” or “to be longsuffering,” Luke 18:7; 1 Thes 5:14; James 5:7-11.
1 Thes 5:14, “We urge you, brethren, admonish the unruly, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with everyone.”
Luke 18:7, “Now, will not God bring about justice for His elect who cry to Him day and night, and will He delay long over them?”
So, we are to be patient with someone or towards someone. That is a mental attitude of grace orientation toward others. This is love characterized by a mental attitude, the attitude is true love or grace toward others. It is an attitude of relaxation instead of trying to run others or being resentful of others. Therefore, it is having a Relaxed Mental Attitude (RMA).
Love is kind: “Kind” is the Greek verb CHRESTEUOMAI – χρηστεύομαι (khraste-yoo’-om-ahee). It comes from CHRESTOS – χρηστός (khrase-tos’) that means, “serviceable or good.” So, CHRESTEUOMAI comes to mean, “to be kind,” “to show one’s self mild,” or “use kindness.”
In the Middle Voice, it means, “to show oneself useful,” that is, “act benevolently.” This is the only time it is used in Scripture. When a word is only used once in all of Scripture, we call it an (hapaxlegomena).
Luke 6:35, “But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He Himself is kind (CHRESTOS) to ungrateful and evil men.”
This refers to the overt activity of grace, and it means to treat others in grace. You do not treat them based on what they earn or deserve, but to treat them graciously. So, we see that these first two characteristics indicate a believer who is oriented to grace, PSD #5.
Love is not jealous: The Greek here for “not jealous” is OUK ZELOO. The Greek verb ZELOO – ζηλόω (dzay-lo’-o) comes from ZELOS – ζῆλος (dzay-lo’s) meaning, “zeal” or “jealous,” and comes from ZEO – ζέω (dzeh’-o) meaning, “hot” or “boiling.” So, ZELOO comes to mean, “to be jealous,” “desire earnestly,” or “to burn with zeal,” “eagerly seek,” or “to envy.” This word is used in both a positive and negative way. Here we are focused on the negative usage of jealousy. Acts 7:9; 17:5-8 (betrayal); James 4:2.
James 4:2, “You lust and do not have; so you commit murder. You are envious and cannot obtain; so you fight and quarrel. You do not have because you do not ask. 3You ask and do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, so that you may spend it on your pleasures.”
It refers to a mental attitude of jealousy, spite, or envy. When you have the filling of the Spirit, the love which is produced in your soul is totally free from jealousy. If you are jealous of someone or something, you are definitely not filled with the Spirit. So, in view here is part of the emotional complex of sins.
Love does not brag: The Greek here is again the negative OUK for, “not or does not,” and the verb PERPEREUOMAI – περπερεύομαι [per-per-yoo-om-ahee]; it is from PERPEROS, which means, “vainglorious, so it comes to mean, “to boast,” “brag,” or “be conceited,” “to parade one’s self.”
Thayer’s definition notes, “A self-display, employing rhetorical embellishments in extolling one’s self excessively.” This is another word used only once in Scripture, an (hapaxlegomena). Also compare with 1 Cor 4:7; 2 Peter 2:17; James 4:16-17. So, we see here and in the next word; the arrogance complex of sins.
1 Cor 4:7, “For who regards you as superior? What do you have that you did not receive? And if you did receive it, why do you boast as if you had not received it?”
2 Peter 2:17, “These are springs without water and mists driven by a storm, for whom the black darkness has been reserved. 18For speaking out arrogant words of vanity they entice by fleshly desires, by sensuality, those who barely escape from the ones who live in error.”
James 4:16-17, “But as it is, you boast in your arrogance; all such boasting is evil. 17Therefore, to one who knows the right thing to do and does not do it, to him it is sin.”
When you are filled with the Spirit, the filling of the Spirit actually produces in you the neutralization of your ego. This does not mean that you stop using the pronouns “I,” or “me,” or that you stop having a personality, which exudes confidence. But it does mean that ego lust is neutralized and “I” and “me” are not your sole means of communication – pun intended.
Love is not arrogant: The Greek verb here is in the Passive Voice of PHUSIOO – φυσιόω (foo-see-o’-o), linked with the negative OUK. PHUSIOO comes from PHUSA meaning, “bellows,” or PHUSIS – φύσις (foo’-sis), which means, “nature.” So, PHUSIOO comes to mean, “to puff or blow up,” “be arrogant,” “conceited,” or “inflated.” In other words, we could say, “a big wind bag,” meaning a person who is full of himself.
1 Cor 8:1-3, “Now concerning things sacrificed to idols, we know that we all have knowledge. Knowledge makes arrogant, but love edifies. 2If anyone supposes that he knows anything, he has not yet known as he ought to know (sophomoric type of arrogant thinking); 3but if anyone loves God, he is known by Him.”
Col 2:18-19, “Let no one keep defrauding you of your prize by delighting in self-abasement and the worship of the angels, taking his stand on visions he has seen, inflated without cause by his fleshly mind, 19and not holding fast to the head, from whom the entire body, being supplied and held together by the joints and ligaments, grows with a growth which is from God.”
So, we have here inner pride where “puffed up” is a desire to inflate one’s self at the expense of others. It is the concept of Spiritual “king of the hill.” In doing so, people seek to advance themselves at the expense of running down someone else.
In love and the filling of the spirit, we don’t seek to raise ourselves at the expense of others and let God promote us in His proper time.
1 Cor 13:5, “does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,”
The Greek in this passage and verse 6 continues to apply the negative OUK in all five applications.
Love does not act unbecomingly: “Act unbecomingly” is the Greek verb ASCHEMONEO – ἀσχημονέω (as-kay-mon-eh’-o) from the root word ASCHEMON – ἀσχήμων (as-kay’-mone) that means, “un-shapely” or “un-seemly.” So, ASCHEMONEO means, “to act unbecomingly,” “behave improperly,” “disgrace oneself,” “to be put to shame,” or “unseemingly.”
It is used here and 1 Cor 7:36 (in regards to marrying off, or not, an older daughter). So, it means to behave dishonorably.
Love does not seek its own: This is the Greek verb ZETEO – ζητέω (dzay-teh’-o) for, “seek” with the understanding of “deliberating,” “demanding,” “inquiring,” or “looking.” This is coupled with Personal Pronoun of HEATOU – ἑαυτοῦ (heh-ow-too’) that means, “himself” or “oneself,” and as an idiom meaning, “one’s own interest or advantage.” Combined, we have the idiom that means, “strive for one’s own interest or advantage,” John 5:30; Phil 2:21; 1 Cor 10:24.
It is a reference to the various lusts of our Old Sin Nature in self-gratification. In contrast, the filling of the Holy Spirit never tries to gratify power lust, approbation lust, materialism lust, etc., because love does not seek its own interests, it seeks God’s will, Cf. 1 John 2:15-17.
Our Lord states in John 5:30 the correct application of the Spiritual life, “I can do nothing on My own initiative. As I hear, I judge; and My judgment is just, because I do not seek My own will, but the will of Him who sent Me.”
The contrast is found in Phil 2:21, “For they all seek after their own interests, not those of Christ Jesus.”
We are commanded in 1 Cor 10:24, “Let no one seek his own good, but that of his neighbor.”
Love is not provoked: Here the Greek verb is PAROXUNO – παροξύνω (par-ox-oo’-no) and comes from PARA – παρά (par-ah’) meaning, “from beside,” “by the side of,” etc., and OXUNO – οξύνω (ox-oo’-no) meaning, “to sharpen.” So, PAROXUNO comes to mean, “to sharpen,” figuratively, “to stimulate” or “to provoke,” but in the negative sense as, “to urge,” “prick,” or “spur.” In regards to the individual, it means to, “be irritable” and “be greatly upsetting.” So, it can mean, “to anger,” “provoke,” “irritate,” or “exasperate.” It’s only used here and in Acts 17:16. Here it comes to mean, “does not easily become angry, irritated, or have tantrums.”
This definition shows the contrast between I. U. Love and Personal Love. I. U. Love is not based on the person you love or the situation. It is based on Bible Doctrine resident in your soul that gives you the capacity for I. U. Love, while Personal Love is based on the likeability of the person or situation you are in.
When you are filled with the Spirit, you are never going to have a tantrum. It is impossible to be filled with the Spirit and be angry, Acts 15:39; 17:16.
Acts 15:39, “And there occurred such a sharp disagreement [PAROXUSMOS] that they separated from one another, and Barnabas took Mark with him and sailed away to Cyprus.”
Acts 17:16, “Now while Paul was waiting for them at Athens, his spirit was being provoked within him as he was observing the city full of idols.”
Love does not take into account a wrong suffered:
The KJV says “thinketh no evil.” The Greek verb to, “take into account” is LOGIZOMAI – λογίζομαι (log-id’-zom-ahee) from LOGOS – λόγος (log’-os), which means, “word” or “an idea.” So, LOGIZOMAI is used in the sense of “an account” or “reckoning,” “to reckon,” or ” to consider.”
That is linked with the Greek adjective for “evil” which is KAKOS – κακός (kak-os’) meaning, “evil, bad, wrong; injury, harm, foul, or troublesome (i.e. sore).” There is no word for “suffered” in the Greek. So, the phrase is “Love does not take into account a wrong with the implication that it is done against you (i.e. betrayal, persecutions, etc.).”
I. U. Love forgives and forgets and does not have revenge motivation, nor is it implacable. But the greater meaning here is in regards to the “but-in-ski.” When you are filled with the Spirit, you don’t put your nose into other people’s affairs and then malign them; you mind your own business and treat them in grace.
1 Cor 13:6, “does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;”
Love does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth:
In this passage both words for “rejoice” are CHAIRO – χαίρω (khah’-ee-ro) with the second instance using the prefix SUG, or SUGCHAIRO – συγχαίρω (soong-khah’-ee-ro) meaning, “rejoice with.”
The comparison is between unrighteousness and truth or ADIKIA – ἀδικία (ad-ee-kee’-ah) and ALETHEIA – ἀλήθεια (al-ay’-thi-a). ADIKIA means, “injustice, unrighteousness, wrongdoing, evil, or sin.” ALETHEIA means, “truth,” with reference to the Word of God as the absolute truth.
The phrase “rejoice in unrighteousness” means, “to revel in sin and/or evil, which includes human good.” This is the mental attitude of the carnal believer. They are glad when they, and/or others around them enter into sin. They rejoice in living a sinful / carnal lifestyle and encourage others to do the same.
The contrast then is in living by means of the truth, which is the Word of God, a reference to Bible Doctrine. The believer filled with the Spirit rejoices when taking in, metabolizing, and applying God’s Word; whereas, the carnal believer rejoices when sin is prevalent in his life.
The positive believer rejoices in the Word, which is having the inner happiness of God, (+H = PSD #10), where that happiness is expressed in thanksgiving for the Word in their soul and life. On the other hand, the carnal believer is not excited about living for Christ in obedience to His Word. So, the contrast is between walking in sin and walking in the light of Jesus Christ, Prov 2:9-15, 20-22; 29:2-7; James 4:16; 1 John 1:5-10.
1 Cor 13:7, “bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
As we noted in verse 6, the warnings “NOT to do something” changed back to the positive “WHAT TO DO.” Verse 7 then continues the positive language in the application of AGAPE love.
Verse 7 also uses PANTA – πάντα which is the Pronominal Adjective in the Accusative, Neuter, Plural, of PAS – πᾶς (pas) four times. PAS means, “all or every” or as it does here “all things.” So, in regards to each of these four categories of AGAPE application, it is directed toward all people, all places, all situations, all things.
In addition, all four Greek verbs are in the Gnomic Present Tense, Active Voice, Declarative Indicative Mood, Third Person, Singular.
The Gnomic Present is a statement of a general, timeless fact. The action of loving continues without time limits, it is a temporal, and it describes what love is at any time. As we noted, these categories of AGAPE love are all characterized by the mental attitude. They present the mental attitude of the mature believer who is truly operating under the filling of God the Holy Spirit, where the fruit is AGAPE love towards all people, every situation, all things.
Love bears all things: Bears is the Greek verb STEGO – στέγω (steg’-o), which means, “to cover closely (so as to keep water out), or generally to bear up under.” It can mean, “to protect or keep by covering, to preserve.” It also means, “to cover over with silence, that is, to keep secret, to hide, conceal, or to cover the errors and faults of others.” Finally, it can mean, “covering to keep off something which threatens, to bear up against, hold out against, and so endure, bear, or forbear.”
Its root word STEGE – στέγη (steg’-ay) means, “a roof,” so it was used originally for a roof, which keeps out the rain. It is also used for keeping things confidential, which is one of the characteristics of the filling of the Spirit. It means not to betray a confidence. So, it means, “to covers the sins of others.” Compare with Gen 9:20-27.
1 Peter 4:8, “Above all, keep fervent in your love for one another, because love covers (KALUPTO – a hut or cabin) a multitude of sins.”, see also, Prov 10:12.
This word is also used in 1 Cor 9:12, (read verses 8-14); 1 Thes 3:1-5.
Love believes all things: Believes is the Greek verb PISTEUO – πιστεύω (pist-yoo’-o) that means, “to believe or entrust.” It comes from the root words PISTIS – πίστις (pis’-tis),” to have faith,” and PEITHO – πείθω (pi’-tho), “to have confidence.” So, PISTEUO comes to mean, “to think to be true, to be persuaded of, to credit, place confidence in.”
It is the conviction and trust we have in God, based on His Spirit and Word in our soul, in regards to all people and life’s situations. When we are filled with God the Holy Spirit, the Faith-Rest, PSD #3, is activated within our soul. The Faith Rest Drill includes, claiming a promise of God, mixing it with faith, turning it into a doctrinal rationale, mentally applying it to the situation, developing a doctrinal conclusion, and then applying the solution in faith, while trusting and resting in God. Mat 21:22; Rom 9:33; 14:2; 15:13; 1 Peter 2:6.
Rom 14:2, “One person has faith that he may eat all things, but he who is weak eats vegetables only.”
Rom 9:33 and 1 Peter 2:6, “For this is contained in Scripture: “Behold, I lay in Zion a choice stone, a precious corner stone, and he who believes in Him will not be disappointed.””
Mat 21:22, “And all things you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive.”
Rom 15:13, “Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that you will abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”
Love hopes all things: Hope is the Greek word ELPIZO – ἐλπίζω (el-pid’-zo) that comes from the root ELPOMAI – ἐλπωμαι that means, “to anticipate or expect.” So, ELPIZO comes to mean, “to expect or to hope.” It’s another form of trusting in God. Ultimately, it means, “having confident expectation,” which describes the mental attitude of PSD #7, a Personal Sense of Destiny. In AGAPE love, we are to have confident expectation in all situations, including confidence in the future and God’s dying grace blessings, (i.e. we understand what the Bible teaches about the eternal state, and we confidently trust in it).
Therefore, through the filling of God the Holy Spirit, we will never have the mental attitude of being in a hopeless situation, even when betrayed. Instead, we will have confident expectation regarding all things, trusting in God’s Plan for our lives. This includes confidently coming to Him in prayer for all things, Heb 4:16, “Therefore let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.”
So, hope is defined in two ways, confident and absolute expectation regarding the present and future no matter the people, thought, system, or disaster testing you may face.
Love endures all things: “Endures” is the Greek verb HUPOMENO – ὑπομένω (hoop-om-on-ay’). It is a compound word from HUPO – ὑπό (hoop-o’) meaning, “by or under,” and MENO – μένω (men’-o) meaning, “to stay, abide, or remain.” So, HUPOMENO means, “to stay behind, to await, or endure.”
Thayer defines this word as; to persevere under misfortunes and trials, to hold fast to one’s faith in Christ, to endure, and to bear bravely and calmly when ill-treated. Ultimately, it is related to undeserved suffering or what we call suffering for blessing.
Endures all things means to be both Doctrinally and Grace oriented, resulting in the stabilization of your soul in time of pressure, with the outcome that you have inner peace no matter how great the pressure or the suffering may be. This means to be actually relaxed while in or under pressure, to have inner happiness, peace, and contentment in the midst of pressure.
Enduring is one of the results and characteristics the consistent intake and application of the Word of God through the filling of the Holy Spirit, Mark 13:13; 2 Tim 2:10; Heb 10:32-36; James 1:12; 5:11. When you can handle being the victim of others’ mental attitude sins (including betrayal) with impersonal love, you will know that you have achieved Spiritual adulthood.
Mark 13:13, “You will be hated by all because of My name, but the one who endures to the end, he will be saved.”
2 Tim 2:10, “For this reason I endure all things for the sake of those who are chosen, so that they also may obtain the salvation which is in Christ Jesus and with it eternal glory.”
James 1:12, “Blessed is a man who perseveres under trial; for once he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him.”
James 5:11, “We count those blessed who endured. You have heard of the endurance of Job and have seen the outcome of the Lord’s dealings, that the Lord is full of compassion and is merciful.”
So, in summary of verse 7, “Love bears, believes, hopes, and endures all things,” or in other words, “Love covers, trusts, confidently expects, and perseveres under pressure in regards to all things.”
1 Cor 13:8, “Love never fails; but if there are gifts of [a]prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away.”
We conclude the definition of love in verse 8, which in its own way is a summary of all the above.
Love never fails: HO AGAPE OUDEPOTE PIPTO – ὁ ἀγάπη οὐδέποτε πίπτω. The Love never fails.
Never is the Greek adverb OUDEPOTE – οὐδέποτε (oo-dep’-ot-eh) from OUDE – οὐδέ (oo-deh’), “and not” or “neither,” made up of OUK – οὐκ (ook) for “not” and DE – δέ (deh) meaning, “but, and, or now.” The second part of OUDEPOTE is from POTE – ποτέ (pot-eh’) meaning, “once” or “ever.” So, OUDEPOTE means, “not once,” “not ever,” or “never.”
Then we have the verb “fails,” which is PIPTO – πίπτω (pip’-to) that means, “to descend from a higher place to a lower place, to fall as in death, in prostration, etc., or to fail.”
The KJV, using the Textus Receptus as its Greek basis, uses the word EKPIPTO – ἐκπίπτω (ek-pip’-to). EKPIPTO is a compound word with the prefix EK – ἐκ (ek) meaning, “from or from out of,” with PIPTO – πίπτω (pip’-to). So, it comes to mean, “to drop away; specifically, be driven out of one’s course; or figuratively, to lose, become inefficient, be cast, fail, fall (away, off), or take none effect.”
Interestingly, PIPTO is a word taken from Greek drama, which means to be hissed off the stage. Plato used it in regards to a play that would fail. One of the worst things that could happen to an actor in Greek drama was to be hissed off the stage. In the U.S., we would not hiss but boo. Therefore, this is saying in essence that love, the fruit of the filling of the Spirit, is never booed off the stage of life. In other words, AGAPE will always be there, it will always be successful, it will never fail, just as our Lord will never leave us nor forsake us, Heb 13:5. So to, AGAPE love will never fail us; it will always hit its mark.
Luke 16:17, “But it is easier for heaven and earth to pass away than for one stroke of a letter of the Law (speaking of the entire Bible here) to fail.”
As we noted previously, the Fruit of the Spirit is Love. Therefore, when filled with the Spirit, we will always operate in love to fulfill the purpose God designed for our lives, which is to love our neighbor.
Rom 14:4, “Who are you to judge the servant of another? To his own master he stands or falls; and he will stand, for the Lord is able to make him stand.”
As Romans 13:8 says, “Owe nothing to anyone except to love one another; for he who loves his neighbor has fulfilled the law. 9For this, “You shall not commit adultery, You shall not murder, You shall not steal, You shall not covet,” and if there is any other commandment, it is summed up in this saying, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” 10Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfillment of the law. 11Do this, knowing the time, that it is already the hour for you to awaken from sleep; for now salvation is nearer to us than when we believed. 12The night is almost gone, and the day is near. Therefore let us lay aside the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light. 13Let us behave properly as in the day, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual promiscuity and sensuality, not in strife and jealousy. 14But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, (who is love) and make no provision for the flesh in regard to its lusts.”
Paul then concludes his discussion of the application of AGAPE in verse 13.
1 Cor 13:13, “But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is (AGAPE) love.”
So, from our study of 1 Cor 13:4-8, we better understand AGAPE love to be:
Patient, kind, not jealous; not bragging, not arrogant, not acting unbecomingly; not seeking its own, not provoked, not taking into account a wrong suffered, not rejoicing in unrighteousness, but rejoicing with the truth; bearing, believing, hoping and enduring all things because LOVE NEVER FAILS.
Or as we have defined it, Love is:
A Relaxed Mental Attitude, Grace Oriented; not jealous of others, not egocentric, not an arrogant wind bag, not dishonorable, not lustful, not quick to anger, nor holding grudges and sticking its nose into others business, nor rejoices in the carnal life, but rejoices in the Spiritual life. Love covers a multitude of sin, Faith Rests, confidently expects, and perseveres under pressure in regards to all things because LOVE NEVER LEAVES YOU NOR FORSAKES YOU.
Summary of I. U. AGAPE Love as a Problem-Solving Device in the Face of Betrayal.
- I. U. AGAPE Love is impersonal, because it is based on the virtue, honor, integrity, and objectivity of the subject, (the one expressing love), rather than on the attraction of the object of your love, sinful man.
- It is unconditional because it is to be applied to all people, in all places, in all situations. It is not dependent on people, places, or things, 1 Cor 13:4-8.
- I. U. AGAPE Love is the ultimate expression of humility, because it does not make your feelings and emotions the criteria for your love. It requires both enforced and genuine humility on your part not to make people issues, such as betrayal, the criteria for your love, and therefore be disoriented to life.
- As an adjective, it means without personal reference or connection, not primarily affecting or involving the emotions of a person. As a noun, it means the quality or state of not involving personal feelings or emotions in relationship to an object.
- Emotion is designed to appreciate relationships, but it should not be the basis for establishing relationships.
a) Emotion uses attractiveness as its basis; therefore, when the attractiveness fades away, so too will your love and the relationship. With I. U. Love, your love and the relationship continues even after the attractiveness has faded away.
b) Emotion has no ability to rationalize, to think, to apply doctrine, or to solve problems.
c) Emotion is designed for our pleasure and enjoyment, but it was not designed for emotional sins such as fear, worry, anxiety, anger, violence, and murder. Those are by-products of Adam’s original sin and our Sin Nature.
d) Emotion is not a part of the Christian way of life. Emotion is a normal function of the human soul when you respond to something you enjoy, but when your emotions react, it is part of the abnormal soul function of the Sin Nature in sinning.
e) The only basis for true love is I. U. Love that can bring with it a wonderful emotion, which is always subordinate to your virtue and integrity.
- I. U. AGAPE Love is the professional attitude of the Christian, similar to the professional attitude of a doctor in regards to his patients. The doctor does all that he can to help his patient, but his help is not based on his personal feelings or emotions regarding the patient, nor his relationship with them.
- John 15:12, “This is My mandate, that you love each other as I have loved you.” How did Jesus love us? Personally? No! Impersonally, because we were imperfect. Therefore, because of His personal love for God the Father and His impersonal love toward all the human race, He went to the cross and was judged for our sins, 1 John 4:9-11.
- John 15:17,”I command you these things, that you might love each other.” Jesus said this to the disciples, most of whom were believers, after they had been together for almost three years. They had developed personality conflicts, took sides, and were critical of each other, Mat 18:1; Mark 9:34; Luke 9:46; 22:24. So, this command from our Lord is brought into the Christian life.
- Personal Love for people is optional; the Bible never commands personal love for people. But in the Plan of God for the Church Age, I. U. love is mandated as a part of God’s Plan, will, and purpose for your life.
a) Personal Love in human relationships exist in three categories; friendship, romance, and marriage.
b) Personal love in human relationship is not a virtue in itself, because it is dependent on the virtue of others for success.
c) Therefore, all problems related to human love demand the function of impersonal love for solutions as well as capacity.
d) Your capacity for Personal Love increases as your Impersonal Love increases.
e) Your Personal Love has no staying power with anyone until you reach Spiritual self-confidence when you no longer feel threatened by anyone.
f) Arrogant people are constantly seeking unconditional love from others, but all they offer in return is conditional love. The greater your arrogance, the more conditions you put on someone’s love. Most men do this to the woman they love. Compare to the mandate of Eph 5:25-30.
g) Impersonal love has no strings attached to it nor makes demands of others. Therefore, people will never irritate you. If people can irritate you, under any set of circumstances, you are not applying the AGAPE love of Spiritual maturity.
h) Objectivity and grace orientation of the Spiritual adult believer is expressed by the virtue of AGAPE Love in all human interactions.
i) Having personal love minus the virtue of impersonal love is the weakest and most unstable status quo in life, because it is vulnerable to the entire realm of both the arrogance complex of sins and the emotional complex of sins.
Without I. U. Love, you will never have any good human relationships. You will change friends, partners in romance, and spouses in marriage, simply because you have no basis for perpetuating any of those relationships apart from virtue.
- I. U. Love for all mankind is the ultimate expression of the transfigured life, which is maximum metabolized Bible Doctrine circulating, by means of the Holy Spirit, in the seven compartments of the stream of consciousness of the heart, 1 John 4:7-21; Rom 12:1-3.
- When apply I. U. Love, you will love those who are known or unknown, friends or enemies, attractive or repulsive, honorable or dishonorable, loving or hateful, appreciative or antagonistic, rich or poor. You will “Love your neighbor as you love yourself,” Lev 19:18; Mat 5:44-48; 19:19; 22:39; Mark 12:31; Luke 6:27-35; Rom 13:9; Gal 5:14-18.
- You cannot have I. U. Love for people until you are properly motivated through Personal Love for God the Father, (PDS # 8), your motivational virtue, which also means you love His Word, (PSD #4).
Gal 5:14, “For the entire Law is fulfilled in one word, in the doctrinal principle, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.'”
1 John 3:23-24, “Furthermore, this is His mandate, that we believe in the name of His Son Jesus Christ, and love one another, just as He commanded us. 24 The one who keeps His commandments abides in Him, and He in him. We know by this that He abides in us, by the Spirit whom He has given us.”
10) Sharing the Perfect Happiness of God, (+H)
Sharing the Perfect Happiness of God (+H) is a key Problem-Solving Device (PSD) related to betrayal and any form of persecution, because when you allow the effects of being betrayed to penetrate your soul, it will destroy any happiness you have. To share in God’s Happiness, we need to understand His happiness as told to us in His Word. Therefore, it is critical that we know His Word, in order to know about His happiness, in order to share in His happiness. Just as we noted that God is Love, it is also true that God is Happy, John 17:13
God is perfect; therefore, His essence is composed of only perfect attributes, one of which is His perfect happiness. Perfect God can only possess perfect happiness. It cannot be tarnished or in any way challenged or destroyed. This same perfect happiness (+H) is available to you.
God’s happiness cannot be disappointed or frustrated by the failure of anyone or anything. This same happiness and love will give you fantastic capacity for life, and no set of circumstances will ever get you down. God’s happiness does not depend upon others, good or bad. No one has ever made God unhappy. Your Happiness should not be dependent on others but on the Word of God in you. Perfect happiness is not dependent on pleasure, success, social life, marriage, sex, love, health, etc. Perfect happiness is developed through life inside God’s Power System and is the only happiness totally independent of the status symbols of life.
God’s happiness, as is His love, is based on who and what He is, not who and what man is. Your Happiness should be based on God’s residency in you and not based on people, places, or things. God’s happiness is an integral part of His Divine essence. Therefore His (+H) should be an integral part of your life.
God is happy and has always been happy for all eternity; He has never been unhappy. You too can have the steadfast happiness of God. God’s happiness is related to His Divine power and immutability. Nothing can destroy or change the happiness of God. It’s impossible for God to be unhappy. There is no unstable characteristic related to the perfect happiness or love of God.
Your (+H) should be related to the omnipotence of God dwelling within you plus the omnipotence of His Word in you. Your happiness should be based on who and what God is in you, and not based on people, environment, or situations. There is no pain, adversity, tragedy, or difficulty greater than God’s perfect happiness in your soul!
Job 5:17a, 19-27, “Behold, how happy is the man whom God reproves. … 19From six troubles He will deliver you, even in seven evil will not touch you.
1) 20In famine He will redeem you from death,
2) and in war from the power of the sword.
3) 21You will be hidden from the scourge of the tongue, and you will not be afraid of violence when it comes. 22You will laugh at violence and famine,
4) and you will not be afraid of wild beasts. 23For you will be in league with the stones of the field, and the beasts of the field will be at peace with you.
5) 24You will know that your tent is secure, for you will visit your abode and fear no loss.
6) 25You will know also that your descendants will be many, and your offspring as the grass of the earth.
7) 26You will come to the grave in full vigor, like the stacking of grain in its season.
27Behold this; we have investigated it, and so it is. Hear it, and know for yourself.”
The key to true happiness is a change in our mental attitude. Never confuse (+H), as taught in the Bible with the various stimuli of life, which are enjoyable for the moment, but have no ability to sustain us in daily living.
The Basis for the Attainment of God’s Happiness:
Perfect happiness comes through the believer’s consistent positive metabolization of Bible Doctrine. Perfect happiness depends on Bible Doctrine in the soul. It is something you think not something you do. God has to share His thoughts with you before you can share His (+H). When the thinking of God becomes your thinking, then you will share God’s happiness. Psa 32:10-11.
Stability in the right lobe comes from having God’s Word in the soul which form sentences and paragraphs, then Doctrines and categories, resulting in norms and standards by which you live. Your perfect happiness is determined by the amount of Bible Doctrine in your soul, Psa 33:1-5.
Perfect happiness starts potentially at salvation. Our first taste of (+H) comes when we believe in Christ, Gal 5:22-24; Rom 14:17; 1 Thes 1:6. This experience is limited because there is no capacity for (+H) yet. Capacity comes from the balance of residency of maximum Bible Doctrine in the soul ready for application plus the filling of God the Holy Spirit. God sharing His perfect happiness with us becomes a reality when we achieve Spiritual maturity. John 17:13-19; 1 John 1:4
John 17:13, “But now I come to You; and these things I speak in the world so that they may have My joy (+H) made full in themselves.”
1 John 1:4, “In fact these things we write, that our joy (+H) may be brought to completion.” Doctrine is written so the Royal Family can have perfect happiness by learning from their right Pastor-Teacher.
When enough categories of Doctrine have been transferred to your soul, then God can share His perfect happiness, because you have capacity to enjoy it and not abuse it. But this is all potential depending on your attitude toward Bible Doctrine.
The greatest experience of security in this life is to attain perfect happiness. Once you have God’s happiness in your soul, it is the ultimate of security, the basis for Spiritual self-esteem, Spiritual autonomy, and Spiritual maturity, Psa 31:7; Phil 3:1.
Phil 3:1, ” Finally, my brethren, rejoice in the Lord. To write the same things again is no trouble to me, and it is a safeguard for you.”
This is security for you because, when you get under pressure, you will think the right thing, do the right thing, and apply the right Doctrine, because you have repeatedly learned to do the right thing under normal circumstances. The more things you can do automatically, the greater your life will be.
The Perfect Happiness of God is:
Contentment of soul. It’s not having what you want, but rather accepting and appreciating what you have and coming to a point of contentment. Phil 4:11-13.
Never feeling threatened by adverse circumstances, by people, or by evil scenarios. (+ H) is ceasing to worry about things that are beyond the power of your will and control. An unhappy person is someone involved in egotism, selfishness, evil, or ignorance, Phil 3:2.
A Problem-Solving Device preventing stress in the soul. (+ H) is going through certain problems and finding out that your happiness has not been taken away, 1 Peter 1:3-8.
Capacity for life, love, appreciation, gratitude, and thanksgiving. (+ H) is not a reward for doing something; it is a consequence of taking in Bible Doctrine. Psa 16:11; Prov 3:13.
Tranquility of soul. Knowing that it is not the place or the condition that dictates your happiness. It’s your relationship with God, Prov 23:7; 17:22.
Psa 16:11 also teaches three ways in which God shares His perfect happiness with us. “You will make known to me the path of life. In Your presence is the fullness of happiness; at Your right hand are pleasures forevermore.” The happiness described here, as belonging to God, is now the potential for any Church Age believer who reaches Spiritual adulthood.
Prov 3:13, “Happiness belongs to the person who finds wisdom, even to the person who gains understanding.” Perfect happiness is absolutely perfect in itself, and can be taken with you wherever you go (“belongs to you”); it will not be disturbed or destroyed.
The Holy Spirit is the source of our sharing God’s perfect happiness, because He is the teacher of Bible Doctrine. Perfect happiness is said to be the “fruit of the Spirit” in Rom 14:17, “For the kingdom of God is not eating and drinking, but righteousness and prosperity and happiness by means of the Holy Spirit.”
See also Rom 15:13; Gal 5:22; Phil 4:4, 11-13; 1 Thess 1:6; James 1:2; 1 Pet 1:8; 3:14; 4:14.
Rom 15:13, “Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that you will abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”
Gal 5:22, “The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy (happiness), peace (prosperity), etc.“
Phil 4:4, “Keep on having happiness in the Lord at all times; once more I repeat the command, keep on having happiness.”
1 Thes 1:6, “You also became imitators of us and of the Lord, having received the Word in much tribulation (pressure, affliction, oppression, etc.) with happiness from the Holy Spirit.”
James 1:2, “Consider it all happiness, my brethren, when you encounter various testings.”
1 Pet 1:8, “Even though you have not seen Him, you love Him; in fact, though you do not see Him now but believe in Him, you greatly rejoice with happiness inexpressible and full of glory.”
1 Pet 3:14, “But if you should suffer for the sake of righteousness (I wish you were, but you’re not), you are happy. `Therefore, do not fear what they fear, and do not let yourself be intimidated (Isa 8:12b).”
1 Pet 4:14, “If you are reviled (denounced, insulted) for the name of Christ, you are happy, because the Spirit of glory and of God rests on (refreshes) you.”
Phil 4:11-13, ” Not that I speak from want, for I have learned to be content (+H) in whatever circumstances I am. 12I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need. 13I can do all things through Him (God the Father) who strengthens me.”
The last three Beatitudes speak to the mature believer who undergoes the various categories of undeserved suffering, including betrayal, yet maintains his +H.
Verse 10, “Happy are those who have been persecuted for the sake of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.” (Happiness comes to the believer who is faithful while under stress. Theirs is a reminder of the eternal reward and bliss they have already been promised.)
The following two verses add emphasis to verse 10 stating, you have been and will be run down / persecuted because of Jesus Christ being in your life, and you will be glorified by God just as Christ has been.
Verse 11, “Happy are you when people insult you and persecute you, and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of Me.” (Happiness comes to the believer who is verbally abused. The believer is reminded that it is not he who is insulted and persecuted but Christ in him.)
Verse 12, “Rejoice (CHAIRO) and be glad (AGALLIAO), for your reward in heaven is great; for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.” (We are commanded to be exceedingly joyful in our soul and our body with a Personal Sense of Destiny when, due to our kinship with the Lord Jesus Christ, we continually receive persecutions, and based on our advance in God’s Plan, we may come under various attacks even unto death.)
MAKARIOS would not be possible without the Word and Spirit. The Holy Spirit is the source of our sharing God’s perfect happiness, because He is the teacher of Bible Doctrine, which is the source of true happiness.
“My Joy … Your Joy”, by Oswald Chambers. “These things I have spoken to you, that My joy may remain in you, and that your joy may be full.” ~ John 15:11
“What was the joy that Jesus had? The joy of Jesus was His absolute self-surrender and self-sacrifice to His Father—the joy of doing that which the Father sent Him to do— “… who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross …” (Hebrews 12:2). “I delight to do Your will, O my God …” (Psalm 40:8). Jesus prayed that our joy might continue fulfilling itself until it becomes the same joy as His. Have I allowed Jesus Christ to introduce His joy to me?
Living a full and overflowing life does not rest in bodily health, in circumstances, nor even in seeing God’s work succeed, but in the perfect understanding of God, and in the same fellowship and oneness with Him that Jesus Himself enjoyed. But the first thing that will hinder this joy is the subtle irritability caused by giving too much thought to our circumstances. Jesus said, “… the cares of this world, … choke the word, and it becomes unfruitful” (Mark 4:19). And before we even realize what has happened, we are caught up in our cares. All that God has done for us is merely the threshold—He wants us to come to the place where we will be His witnesses and proclaim who Jesus is.
Have the right relationship with God, finding your joy there, and out of you “will flow rivers of living water” (John 7:38). Be a fountain through which Jesus can pour His “living water.” Stop being hypocritical and proud, aware only of yourself, and live “your life … hidden with Christ in God” (Colossians 3:3). A person who has the right relationship with God lives a life as natural as breathing wherever he goes. The lives that have been the greatest blessing to you are the lives of those people who themselves were unaware of having been a blessing.”
God Fills the Empty, by Jeanie Albers. “Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that you will abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit” ~ Romans 15:13
“Everyone desires hope, joy, and peace, but our world only reveals a void of these emotional treasures. Our world without Christ is empty. A deep, disturbing vacancy haunts those who do not know Him. Even as believers, we can have areas of emptiness—places we have not let the Holy Spirit have control over; hurts we won’t let go of and places we are working on by our own power, which proves futile. Instead of hope, joy, and peace, we find frustration, sorrow, and an aching void. No amount of religious tradition or ceremonies, hard work, no worldly pleasures, no drug, no award, and no amount of money will satisfy that vacant place. Our efforts only magnify the emptiness. Our power and our ways are useless. We cannot work out a Spiritual life on our own.
Leave the world and bring it all to God: bring your empty soul, shattered dreams, empty arms; bring your aching hurt left by betrayal, bring the empty hours of loneliness and the frustration of working under your own power. Know that His arms, which were willingly stretched out on the cross to save a world of sinners, are strong enough to hold you. “Come to Me” He calls. Come to the Lord through His Word, the power of the Holy Spirit, and the perfect work of Christ on the cross. Let the power of the Holy Spirit change your emptiness into a transformed life. The rushing wind of the Holy Spirit that changed eleven cowards and one legalistic Pharisee into the twelve apostles (whom God used to change the world) is the same Spirit that will change your life. He is able!
The cross has filled the vast void between sinful human beings and a holy, perfect God. There are no doubts in His power, His hope, His joy, or His peace. Come to Him empty, stay with Him forever filled.”
11) Occupation with the Person of Jesus Christ (O. C.)
Deut 6:5-9, “You shall love the LORD (YHVH – Jehovah) your God (ELOHIM) [that is Jesus Christ the God of Israel] with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. 7You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up. 8You shall bind them as a sign on your hand and they shall be as frontals on your forehead. 9You shall write them on the door posts of your house and on your gates.” See also Mat 22:37; Mark 12:30; Luke 10:27.
Occupation with Christ is personal love for our Lord Jesus Christ through maximum metabolized Bible Doctrine circulating in the heart of the soul, by means of the filling of the Holy Spirit, Jer 9:24; 1 Cor 2:16; Eph 3:17-19.
Jer 9:23, “Thus says the LORD, “Let not a wise man boast of his wisdom, and let not the mighty man boast of his might, let not a rich man boast of his riches; 24but let him who boasts boast of this, that he understands and knows Me, that I am the LORD who exercises lovingkindness, justice and righteousness on earth; for I delight in these things,” declares the LORD.”
1 Cor 2:16, “For who has known the mind of the Lord, that he will instruct Him? But we have the mind of Christ.”
When we reach the point of O. C., then we have the mental attitude / thinking of our Lord.
Phil 2:1-2, 5, “Therefore, if there is any encouragement in Christ (and there is), if there is any comfort from love (and there is), if there is any fellowship with the Spirit (and there is), if there is any affections and mercies (and there is); make my joy complete, (be filled with my happiness) that you might be thinking the same things (Divine viewpoint), having the same virtue love, united in soul, intent on one objective…. have this thinking in you which was also in Christ Jesus.”
The encouragement in Christ is based on being occupied with Him. That is, having His Word resident within your soul, leading to the formation of the Problem-Solving devices, so that in betrayal, suffering, disaster, shocks, or pressures your fellowship with Christ brings true solutions, inner peace, contentment, and (+H) to your soul.
When you attain O. C., you have also attained (+H), so that you are prepared to meet and face any and every circumstance. Occupation with Christ is often mentioned with sharing the happiness of God in Scripture.
O. C. is achieved when Bible Doctrine is the number one priority in your life, Col 3:1-2; 1 Peter 1:8.
1 Pet 1:8, “And even though you have not seen Him, you love Him (Occupation with Christ); and though you do not see Him now but believe in Him, you greatly rejoice with inexpressible happiness (+H) and full of glory.”
Capacity to love someone who is invisible requires a tremendous amount of information in the right lobe (heart) of the soul. The capacity to love Jesus Christ comes only from metabolized Doctrine converted into Problem Solving Devices stationed on the FLOT line of your soul. Those who love Christ have made the Lord their role model by learning His way of thinking. As a result, they have true happiness. This happiness is dependent upon the accumulation of Bible Doctrine in the heart of the soul and having zero garbage in the subconscious of the soul.
There are two Divine Mandates with Regard to Occupation with Christ (O. C.):
1) Heb 12:2, “Be concentrating on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who because of the exhibited happiness, He endured the Cross and disregarded the shame (imputation of our sins), and He sat down at the right hand of God.”
2) 1 Pet 3:15, “But sanctify (set apart as more important than anything else) the Lord Christ in your hearts.”
God makes a direct positive demand on your will and volition to be occupied with Christ, which is a mandate to be consistent in the Perception, Metabolization, and Application (PMA) of Bible Doctrine.
- Occupation with Christ is the standard operating procedure for the mature believer, Heb 12:1-2.
- Occupation with Christ is illustrated by the Doctrine of Right Man / Right Woman.
She is to be occupied with her right man as we are to be occupied with Christ, 1 Cor 11:5-12; Eph 5:25-33.
- Occupation with Christ includes total dependence on grace provision and is related to both stability and inner happiness, Psa 16:8-9; 25:15; 37:4-5; 141:8; James 2:24-26.
Psa 16:8, “I have set the LORD continually before me; because He is at my right hand, I will not be shaken. 9Therefore my heart is glad and my glory rejoices; my flesh also will dwell securely.”
- Occupation with Christ is also defined as fellowship with the Son. Phil 2:1-2, 5; 1 John 1:5-7
1 Cor 1:9, “God (Father) is faithful, through whom you have been called into fellowship with His Son, Jesus Christ our Lord.”
Our fellowship with Christ comes from learning Bible Doctrine and is infinitely more important than our fellowship with people. Fellowship with Christ is synonymous with occupation with Christ and is a part of God’s will, plan, and purpose for your life.
Christian fellowship is no substitute for O. C. Therefore, social intercourse with Christians is never a substitute for learning Bible Doctrine.
Eph 3:17, “So that Christ may be at home in your hearts through faith when you have been rooted and established in virtue-love (personal love for Christ).”
- The attainment of Occupation with Christ is gradual.
O. C. is developed when our Lord becomes our role model, our celebrity.
This starts by the command in Eph 3:19, “And to come to know the love for Christ which surpasses knowledge (goes beyond gnosis), that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.”
Plus, 1 Cor 2:16, “For who has known the thinking of the Lord that we should instruct Him; we have the thinking of Christ.”
The gradual process only occurs when we get to the place where we understand that we need help. We have to come to the point of helplessness in order to learn and receive. You have to know that you know nothing before you can know something. The fact is, we often do not know how helpless we are until we get into a jam. Therefore, when in a jam, we learn to utilize the PSD’s, and overtime learn how they function, rely and trust in them, and therefore gain O. C.
With Bible Doctrine as the working object of our faith, the believer has a maximum love response to Jesus Christ causing him to be considered “a friend of God” which is a title for O. C., James 2:23; 2 Chron 20:7; Isa 41:8.
- Occupation with Christ means your motivation in life changes.
Occupation with Christ changes your mental attitude about yourself, so that you change your mental attitude about other people who do not love you the way you want to be loved, or do not treat you the way you want to be treated. How you are treated and loved by others is no longer an issue once you have reached Spiritual Self-Esteem and have cognitive self-confidence. It is your fellowship with Christ that counts. This means your thinking has changed about how you think you should be loved. This change is the result of the Word of God resident in your soul. Therefore, you cannot make an issue out of yourself and advance in your Spiritual life. In addition, you can’t change other people. They have free will to be as rotten as they want to be.
Because believers expect too much from others, they get into unrealistic expectations. To avoid unrealistic expectations from others and to pass people, system, thought, and disaster testing, it is necessary to be occupied with the person of Christ. You cannot change people to conform to your standards of treatment and love. But you can solve the problems of frustration through I. U. Love as a Problem-Solving Device.
The center of the Bible says Psa 118:9, “It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in man.”
Jer 17:5-7, “Thus says the Lord, `Cursed is the man who puts his trust in mankind, who depends on people for his strength, and whose heart turns away from the Lord. 6For he will be like a tumbleweed in the desert; he will not see prosperity when it comes, but he will live in parched places of the desert, a land of salt where no one lives (has no capacity for life). 7But happy is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in Him.'”
Having the thinking of Christ results in preoccupation with Christ rather than preoccupation with people. In the Spiritual life, we don’t need to depend on anyone else but God. This does not exclude our interdependence on a team, coworkers, church, or family. But it means that God does the blocking, opens the holes, and provides the solutions to our problems. Therefore, in your relationships in life, you must allow God to “run interference,” because you cannot change people. Likewise, God is the One who changes you when you are positive toward Doctrine. God causes you to grow up.
- Occupation with Christ results in God emphasis taking precedence over people emphasis, Col 3:2.
God emphasis must take priority over people emphasis in the function and execution of the Plan of God for the Church Age. Fellowship with God is infinitely more important than fellowship with people. But you will never discover this until you learn some Doctrine. Fellowship with God is part of God’s Plan, but fellowship with people at best is a mere result; at worst, a disaster. You cannot be motivated by people and advance in the Christian life.
True Christian fellowship is fellowship with God the Father, the filling of the Holy Spirit, and Occupation with Christ. Therefore, we have the importance of our motivation from personal love for Jesus Christ. Christ was not loved the way He wanted to be loved or treated the way He wanted to be treated, yet He did not have any unrealistic expectations toward people around Him. This means that you no longer live for yourselves but for Christ.
- Occupation with Christ eliminates the human viewpoint of life.
Human viewpoint makes you miserable and makes you argue with others about everything in life. Human viewpoint holds an opinion about everything in life and is intolerant of anyone else’s opinion, 2 Tim 2:14-17. Therefore, you must possess true humility. Humility in the mature believer is being occupied with the person of Christ, totally relaxed, proving nothing, and enjoying everything. The other side of the coin is to complain about everything. Occupation with Christ eliminates all human viewpoint. Phil 3:7-8.
- Characteristics and Results of Occupation with Christ in each stage of Spiritual adulthood.
In Spiritual Self-Esteem, “Christ formed in you,” Gal 4:19. The result: “the love for Christ controls (occupies) us,” 2 Cor 5:14.
In Spiritual Autonomy, “Christ dwells (is at home) in your hearts,” Eph 3:17. The result: “sanctifying the Lord Christ in your hearts,” 1 Pet 3:15.
In Spiritual Maturity, “Christ exalted in my body, whether by life or by death,” Phil 1:20. The result: “for me, living is Christ and dying is profit,” Phil 1:21.
From Betrayal to Spiritual Self-Esteem:
We have seen how the 11 PSD’s give us protection and recovery from betrayal, so now I would like you to understand that it is rare for a believer to apply all 11 PSD’s. The reason is Spiritual growth and maturity. Not all believers are super-spiritual adults who always apply all 11 effectively. For most, the application relies on PSD’s 1-4: Confession of sins, Filling of the Spirit, Faith Rest, and Doctrinal Orientation. As you continue to grow Spiritually, you will begin to learn the others.
That secondary growth begins with Grace Orientation, which leads to a Personal Sense of Destiny. If you are consistently applying PSD’s 5 and 7, you have arrived at the first stage of Spiritual Adulthood, Spiritual Self-Esteem (SSE). In SSE, you begin to understand and apply AGAPE Love, a.k.a. Virtue Love, a.k.a. Impersonal and Unconditional Love toward all of mankind. That then leads to growing in your Personal Love for God the Father as your motivational virtue, which leads to Sharing in the Happiness of God. That also means you have been and are Occupied with the Person of Lord Jesus Christ. The Ultra Supergrace believer is the one who is consistently operating in all 11 PSD’s. Nevertheless, it should be the goal of every believer.
Therefore, do not beat yourself up or be too harsh or critical of your Spiritual walk if you are not consistently operating in all 11 perfectly. Just relax in God, trust in His Word and continually take in and apply what you are taught from your Pastor and be confident in your relationship with the Lord. With that formula, you will soon find yourself in Spiritual Adulthood status.
Now, how does this apply to betrayal? Well, getting over a betrayal is an “inside job,” it is a soul matter between you and God the Holy Spirit. Although it’s hard to believe at first, the other party, the betrayer is actually insignificant. How so?
You see, when we let betrayal by others penetrate our souls, we are the one to blame. Why? Because when betrayal negatively is affecting our soul, it means we have allowed our Sin Nature to rule over us in that situation, and therefore we are operating in sin. As you know, sin is not against each other, but is against the Lord.
David said, “I have sinned against You and You only Lord,” Psa 41:4; 51:4. See also Judges 10:10; 1 Kings 8:33, 35, 50; 2 Chron 6:24, 26, 39; Neh 1:6; Jer 14:7, 20; Dan 9:8.
Therefore, the challenge is to keep watch over your own soul by applying God’s Word, including the 11 PSD’s to the situations of life, including betrayal. If you do, the result means cleansing or protection from the harmful negative effects of betrayal. So, the work we need to accomplish is on the inside. The challenge for this type of inner work is to heal the pain of separation from God via sin and return to connection and oneness.
Whether we recognize it or not, with a shattering betrayal experience, we have been thrust into the “granddaddy” of all initiations. But fear not, because initiations can be understood as Spiritual awakenings. That is, they are a process by which we pass from one state of understanding and perception into another. You see “initiates” gain character and wisdom through the three phases of common transitions in life:
- Transformation, or Transfiguration, and
This is also known in a larger context as life, death, and rebirth. Paul understood this concept when he said, “I have died to self and live for Christ, Phil 1:21-25 (read vs. 9-25); 3:1-11.
We understand that:
- The Separation phase is loss or damage in relationship.
- The Transformation phase is a shift of focus or perspective (thoughts, emotions, and beliefs), and
- The Renewal phase is attainment of (for unbeliever), or regaining of (for the believer) relationship with God.
Therefore, this entire process results in gaining or regaining trust in God, which leads to Spiritual Self-Esteem, which means trust in the Filling of the Spirit and Bible Doctrine resident in your soul that also results in Spiritual self-approval and Spiritual self-confidence.
As we have noted, the separation phase includes sudden and severe loss that is traumatic, along with emotional tests and trials. This is an area where the betrayed could easily get stuck. But through viewing the transition from separation to renewal as suffering for blessing, it allows you to reframe the psychological ordeals as “tests” in a timeless, prototypical process. If we can see the meaning in our suffering, an opportunity exists to break the betrayal pattern.
As the old is released, a new way of being slowly emerges. To enable this healthy change, we need to shift from our human resources to God’s Power System, (GPS – the filling of God the Holy Spirit and the application of Bible Doctrine). A successful Spiritual awakening ends with renewal.
Rom 12:2, “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed (transfigured) by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.”
2 Cor 3:18, “But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed (transfigured) into the same image from glory to glory, just as from the Lord, the Spirit.”
As a result of hard-gained wisdom, via separation or betrayal, and with your inner power restored, you will step out confidently in the new Spiritual life. When you have completed the transition, it is accompanied by the EPIGNOSIS of safety, acceptance, and self-respect. Now you are glorifying God and storing up rewards for both time and eternity.
Everyone experiences some dramatic changes or tragedies in life, some trials or tests. After all, that’s what we’re here for. Proving our character by the choices we make in responding to those trials is what forms the basis of God’s just rewards, 1 Cor 3:10-15; James 1:2-5; 1 Peter 1:6-7; 5:10.
Being betrayed is part and parcel to many, if not most, trials, (i.e. betrayed by spouse, business partner, friend, neighbor, any other forms of separation, etc.). The question is “how do you recover?” This is a heavy subject, and one that has derailed many believers. Yet, the outcome should be a positive one. Over time, you will be stronger, more resilient, and confident in yourself and in your relationship with the Heavenly Father.
A healthy recovery from betrayal includes a continued hope, faith, and reliance on the power of God, coupled with the willingness to face the realities, while picking yourselves up, seeking solutions, and working with integrity to do your part. In addition, old or misguided loyalties seem to disappear once you’ve done the inner work, which leads to Spiritual Self-Esteem.
(The preceding was inspired by Evelyn J. Vermette’s website, Heal from Betrayal, http://healfrom.startlogic.com
The Trauma of Betrayal:
The phrase “betrayal trauma” is used to refer to a kind of trauma effecting the soul as a result of being betrayed, (independent of the reaction to the trauma). This occurs when the ones we depend on for survival (people or institutions) betray us in some way. This trauma occurs when betrayed physically, emotionally, or sexually, especially in abusive situations.
As a result of the trauma, there is a social utility in remaining unaware of the abuse especially when the perpetrator is a caregiver. That is, our basic cognitive processes involved in attention and memory play an important role in dissociating explicit awareness of betrayal traumas.
Unawareness and forgetting of abuse will be higher when the relationship between perpetrator and victim involves closeness, trust, and/or care giving. Why? Because the conflict between the need to stay in the relationship and awareness of betrayal is great, where the need for maintaining the relationship outweighs the need to remember the traumatic event and thus we forget or have memory impairment.
The forgetting or memory impairment is called “betrayal blindness” where those involved in betrayal demonstrate unawareness, not-knowing, and forgetting in regards to the betrayal. This can also be called the “looking the other way” syndrome. This can occur even in betrayals that are not traditionally considered “traumas,” such as adultery, inequities in the workplace and society, etc.
Therefore, victims, perpetrators, and witnesses may display betrayal blindness in order to preserve relationships, institutions, and social systems upon which they depend. Another reason for this “blindness” is the demand from the perpetrator or others (family, society, etc.) to keep silent. But in all cases, this is an inordinate condition where you bury the trauma in the subconscious of your soul.
Consequently, betrayal blindness appears to be related to avoidance and dissociative responses that help the individual to keep threatening information from awareness under conditions where the individual’s survival depends upon the perpetrator. (Some of the definitions above inspired by Freyd, J.J. (2008). What is a Betrayal Trauma? What is Betrayal Trauma Theory? Retrieved September, 12, 2008 from http://dynamic.uoregon.edu/~jjf/defineBT.html).
This blindness, leading to burying the trauma in the subconscious of your soul, can also lead us to numerous other physical and mental health symptoms and disorders.
Prov 13:12, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but desire fulfilled is a tree of life.
Prov 17:22, “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit dries up the bones.”
Habakkuk 3:16, “I heard and my inward parts trembled, at the sound my lips quivered. Decay enters my bones, and in my place I tremble. Because I must wait quietly for the day of distress.”
Mat 23:27, “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs which on the outside appear beautiful, but inside they are full of dead men’s bones and all uncleanness. 28So you, too, outwardly appear righteous to men, but inwardly you are full of hypocrisy and lawlessness.”
The subconscious is the place for storage of impressions, thoughts, and emotions which do not exist in the conscious mind or in the emotions. The subconscious includes aspects of the mental life which are not immediately a part of the individual’s conscious mind, since certain emotional factors will not ordinarily permit its contents to come to the surface.
The subconscious affects thoughts, feelings, and behavior without entering into one’s awareness. It functions just below the threshold of consciousness. The subconscious is merely the slough‑off for things in the conscious mind that are rejected, no longer believed, or priorities and standards which you have now changed. The subconscious collects all the poison of your heart (right lobe).
The subconscious becomes a storage area for shock from sin, failure, betrayal, adversity, frustration, or disappointment. When the conscious mind cannot or does not handle certain things, they apparently slip into the subconscious mind. The result then is a clouding of the conscious mind where the individual is only partially aware of what is really going on. He is therefore divorced, in part or in total, from reality.
Six Steps for Recovery of Betrayal:
So, what do you do in the face of Betrayal Trauma? Well, previously we have noted how to apply the 11 Problem Solving Devices, “the full armor of God,” for protection and recovery against garbage accumulation within the heart of your soul and subconscious. So, now we will explore six steps to recover from betrayal or any tragedy: (From Shattered; Six Steps from Betrayal to Recovery, by Bettyanne Bruin and Fay A. Klingler)
Step #1 — Awareness
You cannot change the circumstances surrounding betrayal until you have recognized a betrayal has taken place. This may sound like an obvious scenario, but in the case of betrayal, the secrets surrounding this form of abuse are sometimes difficult to see; betrayal is often a “silent crime.” Frequently the victim does not know he or she has been victimized, whether it is through an affair, leading a double life, and/or secrets of financial indiscretions, until long after the victimization has taken place. Awareness must be the first step to betrayal recovery. Mat 7:17; 10:17; 16:6; Luke 12:15; Phil 3:2; 2 Tim 3:1-10: 4:15
Mat 7:15, “Beware of the false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravenous wolves.”
Step #2 — Acceptance
Grief is the result following any type of loss, especially the loss of heartfelt expectations destroyed by betrayal. It is a natural part of an emotionally healthy recovery process. Shock, denial, anger, guilt, bargaining, and sadness are companions to grief. When the process is followed to its completion, acknowledgement and acceptance of one’s reality can be comforting results. Finding ways to successfully manage fear and positively channel anger brings about the yearned-for, pain-free hope that is necessary and must be the second step for a full recovery. Psa 33:22; Phil 4:11-13; 1 Thes 4:13.
Remember, “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”
1 Thes 4:13, “But we do not want you to be uninformed, brethren, about those who are asleep, so that you will not grieve as do the rest who have no hope.
Psa 33:22, “Let Your lovingkindness, O LORD, be upon us, according as we have hoped in You.”
Phil 4:11, “Not that I speak from want, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. 12I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need. 13I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.”
Step #3 — Action
Once betrayal is recognized and accepted, action must take place, whether this action is choosing to continue or end the relationship with the betrayer. One must act, not react, by setting reasonable limits, safely confronting the issues, and taking the risk to make life better. 2 Cor 6:15-17; 10:5, 7.
As William Shakespeare said, “This above all; to thine own self be true.”
2 Cor 10:5, “We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. 7You are looking at things as they are outwardly. If anyone is confident in himself that he is Christ’s, let him consider this again within himself, that just as he is Christ’s, so also are we.”
2 Cor 6:15, “Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever? 16Or what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God. 17Therefore, come out from their midst and be separate,” says the Lord.”
Step #4 — Authorization
Authorization or permission to move forward with your life is a vital step in the recovery process. One of the most common yet innocent characteristics of a victim of betrayal is his or her “willingness to submit,” “to be the nice guy,” or to give the betrayer “permission” to abuse. Authorizing yourself, the victim, to take control of your life by establishing the proper Doctrines in your soul, applying the 11 PSD’s, and learning to trust in your decision making again, is a vital step in breaking away from the betrayer and healing the heartbreak associated with betrayal. 1 Cor 6:12; 7:35; 10:23; Phil 4:13; 1 Peter 4:19.
1 Cor 7:37, “But he who stands firm in his heart, being under no constraint, but has authority over his own will, and has decided this in his own heart…”
1 Peter 4:19, “Therefore, those also who suffer according to the will of God shall entrust their souls to a faithful Creator in doing what is right.”
1 Cor 6:12, “All things are lawful for me, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be mastered by anything.”
Step #5 — Accountability
In fairness you, the victim, must hold yourself accountable for the part played in the betrayal, if any at all, and give proper ownership to the betrayer, as well, for his or her part in the abuse. Taking the obsessive searchlight off the other person and focusing on yourself empowers change. There is a time when you must quit being the victim governed by fear, and make a plan for what is and is not acceptable, never again compromising on those important issues. You can visualize beyond the past and look with hope into the possibilities of the future by forgiving the betrayer and making yourself a product of your decisions instead of your conditions. Ezra 10:4; Psa 27:3; 49:5; Luke 6:41-45 (speck and log), Gal 6:5; 1 Pet 3:14-17: 1 John 4:8.
Charles A. Beard said, “When it is dark enough, you can see the stars.”
Ezra 10:4, “Arise! For this matter is your responsibility, but we will be with you; be courageous and act.”
Gal 6:5, “For each one will bear his own load.”
Psa 27:3, “Though a host encamp against me, my heart will not fear; though war arise against me, in spite of this I shall be confident.”
Step #6 — Advancement
An old Chinese proverb says, “Be not afraid of growing slowly; be afraid only of standing still.” Advancement may be considered the last strategy or step of recovery, but it is also the first step in the rest of your life. Visualizing life with a set of fresh goals and a trust in God creates confidence and courage. Healing occurs as you reach out to serve and help others in need. To advance forward, you take it one step at a time, one day at a time, while maintaining your relationship with Christ through the filling of God the Holy Spirit.
Horace (Circa 35 B.C.E.) said, “The harder you fall the higher you bounce.”
Phil 3:13-16, “Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet; but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, 14I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. 15Let us therefore, as many as are mature, have this attitude; and if in anything you have a different attitude, God will reveal that also to you; 16however, let us keep living by that same standard to which we have attained.”
Separation, Transformation, Renewal:
I am shattered, abused, and bruised.
Broken fragments of me litter the landscape.
Dazed, I wander through chaos bewildered by where I have been.
Searching for something real to staunch the bleeding,
stop the tears, heal the hurt, I sift through fear and anger of surreal days.
Grieving, I go through the motions — butter the toast, take out the trash.
I find scattered remnants of who I am and gather particles of hope, confidence,
and forgiveness until finally, I have a handful.
Kaleidoscope pieces form dazzling patterns, prisms in the sun.
Turning, testing, I discover something new and beautiful.